Negative Polarity & BDSM

[Ray711]

I used to be into BDSM but I have largely lost my taste for it as a natural result of my healing process. It's just plain not as interesting as it once was to me, because I have accepted that desire and now I accept newer desires for more intimate connection.

I agree with taking this non-judgmental and accepting approach to one's likes, tendencies and desires.

On the subject of pornography as a whole, I think that the female perspective sometimes ignores the fact that male anatomy works in such a way that it automatically discharges sexual energy every few weeks if the man himself doesn't do it. To those women who have criticized pornography as a whole and the male tendency to resort to it, I would urge you to think about this for a second, and the huge implications of such a fact. If the male body itself is designed to do this, imagine the powerful and ever-present influence that sexuality has on the male mind. It's easy to label this as negative, to belittle it, to consider it impure, unwholesome, as a stumbling block towards positive polarization, or claim why this shouldn't happen under the justification that this tendency has such and such negative consequences for women.

However, I would point out that male biology works like this for a very good reason. The red ray is the same in some aspects for both genders, but in other aspects the male red ray and the female red ray are completely different beasts. What's adaptive for one gender is not so for the other. For the male, during second density, passing on one's genes was much more likely to happen if he made use of any and all opportunities to mate. For females, the opposite was true. Females had to be picky about who they mated with. Whereas the female can only have offspring so many times in her lifetime, the male can have virtually unlimited offspring. This is a tendency that reflects the archetypal and divine values of each gender; the masculine being proactive and all giving, with unlimited energy to send everyone around him; the feminine being receptive and embracing, using this energy that she receives to create something of beauty. Of course, we're talking about the red ray level of being, which means that these archetypes are going to look what we may call crass and untasteful. However, like Ra points out, the red ray is the foundation of all that is to come. Without it, the higher expressions of the masculine and of the feminine would simply not exist.

Now, when it comes to porn, and more specifically online pornography, what we have today has some very obvious dangers. Male psychology is literally wired to get more aroused at the prospect of having sex with a new partner. Online pornography makes it so that every man has access to what is basically an unlimited number of women. It doesn't matter if he doesn't get to have actual intercourse with them; in these terms, the brain doesn't make that distinction fully. In this sense, pornography can be very pernicious to the male mind, because it hijacks the natural drive of the male red ray, giving it exactly what it desires, and this most definitely can lead to preferring to watch pornography over having sex with one's partner.

On the other hand, going back to the male's body being designed to discharge sexual energy on its own, it's completely understandable that the huge majority of men would seek an outlet in the form or porn. Especially when single, and doubly so for those men who haven't been very successful with women. What is to be done in such circumstances, exactly? This is a challenge for any man, no matter how pure or noble, no matter how much positively polarized.

Ra talked about marriage being an adversarial relationship in our society. This pattern also exists at the red ray level. What is adaptive for one gender isn't so for the other. Each gender naturally wishes the other one to abandon the tendencies that it has, because they are not aligned with the self's wishes. But when we sit down and examine the reasons why each gender has the instincts that it has, they make complete and perfect sense. They exist for a very good reason. As a species, we wouldn't have survived from the second to the third density without them. Much conflict in the forms of judging and invalidation is created because of a lack of understanding of these patterns.

I think the key is first to recognize that this instinctual/red ray energy is chaotic and random. As such, it's good to always be vigilant not to be controlled and directed in life by one's red ray, be it the male or the female red ray. But at the same time, complete acceptance and lack of judgement of what exists is paramount in the positive polarity. Again, like Ra says, the red ray is the foundation of all that is to come. To denigrate and to judge this energy ray is to deny the opportunity for energy to reach any of the higher energy rays.