Why is the negative polarity clever?

[Kaaron]

We can be loving of self as well as others.
This is balance.
Am I missing something?

We have different views on what polarity is. My read is that the Service to Others path serves others but also the self. The Service to Self path only includes particular ways in which the self serves itself; namely, those of control and manipulation that entail a perception that the self is somehow better than or more important than others. To accept oneself is the trademark of STO, and while technically it is a service to the self, it is the complete opposite of what the Service to Self path is really about.

So what about a monk who spends their life in solitude on a hill?
Is that service to self? Or others?
The self can serve itself in as many infinite ways, as it can serve others.
The self service path may have some manipulative selves. It also has a bunch of positive, self focused selves. It means seeing self as separate...which can lead to being convinced of superiority...if you choose this. It isn't written in stone.
I feel like its presumptuous to say that because one is focused on self, it is doing it for the agenda of being better than, another part of self.
That is a path that is available within the illusion of the self serving densities.
There are shadows that can exist there, if you choose to ignore them and separate them from yourself.
You can also exist as the infinite creator through knowledge of self.

Conversely, there are a lot of people who believe that we need to focus on the infinite creator and thats called "positivity". They push away what they see as dark or negative, without realizing that it is possible as incarnate beings, to understand both. That the negative friends are actually us...or the shadows we push away because we're ignoring inner work. We run around trying to burn off karma by being STO, without doing any work at healing the distortions within. This is what happens when radiance, out balances reflection.
When we push...as positively polarized entities...instead of pull...as negative.
We can offer our truth...some might call that "help" on the STO path.
The help needed, may be a reflective ear. Which is actually an action which requires being compassionate yet internal. This is a negative, pulling action...we are drawing out the energy of another. They are being positive by communicating their state of being, to the other entity.
Positive and negative are states of push and pull.
The 4D realm of understanding both, leads to 5D wisdom of application. It shows us how they work together to produce light in unity or 6D IMO.