(09-21-2019, 07:01 AM)Infinite Unity Wrote:(09-21-2019, 06:40 AM)Loki Wrote: Thank you all for the answers. It is hard to turn the other cheek. My anger appears usually in situations where I witness abuse rather than when I am involved directly. And it is deep calm type of anger where the only effect for outside world is I speak slower and more sarcastic towards the abuser. Seeing the abuser as me I cannot, and I hate myself for being angry and I hate the other for abusing and I feel pity for the victim and I feel the urge to take his side and attack the abuser. But anger is not a good feeling even when you are a calm person.
I can love a dog attacking me I love less a dog attacking other dog, but I cannot love a human abusing another human.
Understandable, try focusing on what help, or assistance you could provide the One being abused. Connect with your compassion for the abused, over anger towards abuser.
Usually the abuser will honestly be under a similar type of pain that there expressing towards the abused. Trying to turn anger is like trying to turn an emotional river. Only with deep understanding, compassion, and forgiveness, can One do this.
What if you are at the receiving end unable to do anything about it?