How to turn anger in love

[Loki]

The process of transforming anger is simpler than it sounds. Just don't deny the anger (accept your feelings); allow the anger to take its natural course mentally, not in action (its natural course being erratic, self-promoting, without order); and witness mentally the eventual entropy as the disorganized angry feelings flair and burn themselves out. Because they will if you allow them to express long enough, as the nature of anger is transient and volatile (volatile in the scientific sense). The key is doing it mentally, so as not to infringe on another.

But in order to do this, a level of consciousness and transparency with self must be in place. If there are underlying disconnects with self, such as believing self to be righteous, or a victim, these underlying conditions may skew the exercise.

It's not about forcing self to love others or even self; it's about staying on the path of potential, and conscious intention will be the guide.

The world is full of anger in part because so many humans are relatively asleep to the bigger picture.

Here is the missing link I believe in my understanding. Let anger develop mentally!!! What does this means? I see only two kinds of reaction when angry. The first reaction is to act physically calmly or violently against an abuser.  Second reaction is to shut down your physical reaction and keep anger mental but isn't this what causes effects on your body? Some people scream their way through life with zero level of stress verbally abusing their way around just because they feel like it and others keep everything inside out of consideration for others including the abusers. How is this mental anger developing because in my case it doesn't, it just changes from anger to darker feelings. Instead of fighting for a fairer world just let it go all to hell. How anger evolves mentally and not become sadness or lack of hope which on its own is some kind of evolution?  I want to see anger evolving positively not negatively but in my case never does?
This mental evolution of anger in a positive attitude eludes me even though I know clearly it is my fault primarily because I am sensitive to events which do not concern me and should not really affect me.