Loving without expectation of return

[Loki]

I see this a lot in the Law of One. The channeling I was reading just now actually was in regards to a spouse, but certainly that could be extended to friends too, strangers are easiest not to expect anything in return from.

The love is there and it’s in your nature to love this way but society teaches us that is wrong. I actually got called a people pleaser this summer because I tolerated a friend’s issues with patience and compassion instead of behaving coldly as they had.

My relationships friend or spouse of course there is 2 way love but in some dynamics one will often love more than the other is capable.

I resonate with just letting that heart be open and not considering the expectation of return but sometime I find they do. They become uncomfortable because they see they are not as loving, it will often bother me a bit too only being human and needing shelter myself sometimes but not enough to change how I love.

I’m just curious how everyone here deals with the diametrically opposed ways of love. The worldly tit for tat way or the much bigger picture unconditional it is what it is no point denying it kind of way.

I find this is honestly my biggest catalyst. I mean I have experienced some doozies that would make the news or a movie of the week but this troubles me most.

I guess because it is the choice. Do we love anyways. The answer being yes but then why do I feel flawed, weak, defective for loving when the world says I should close my heart and move along?

Just thought others might have similar wonderings.
Love to you

If you ask me love is not a two ways street but rather a personal manifestation of the Creator in us, independent of the reaction of the receiver of our love. There are only two fundamental kinds of love: love for self and lover for the other-self. Let me explain:

When we help or service someone we are attracted to, more or less we service ourselves because we are gratified by that person being in our life. We do not care if that person needs us because we need them. Gifting the person we are in love with means after all gifting ourselves. This is in my opinion and indirect form of love for self which mistakenly confused for generosity towards other-selves.

True love is the service you freely give to someone in need despite you being uncomfortable while doing it. For example if you volunteer in a hospital or in a retirement home and you help people in need which might not be pleasant to be around because of their condition, means you give love to other selves making other-selves higher priority than your own person. This is fundamentally giving unconditioned love. Helping is loving.

In our society there is a big confusion between being in-love deeply emerged in our illusion and fundamentally egoistic because of expected reciprocity, and love generous and unconditional which is of divine nature.