Why the hate for wisdom?

[Diana]

Good for Diana. I would say that I found the people you bond the closest to are the people you can most freely talk with. I personally think adding a layer of etiquette would add a layer of fakeness. Maybe though it is more useful with people you are not close to.

If we want to talk about things Diana has said, she states multiple times she does not believe in reinforcing victimhood and instead reinforce self-empowerment.

Absolutely true about victimhood and self-empowerment.

What I tried to convey, and I often fail to hit the mark when communicating something "not normal," is the idea that being polite can add a modicum of detachment in the sense that it stops you from reacting out loud impulsively. Politeness, though it can be, does not have to be fakeness; it can simply be a self-centering device. That is not to say you don't speak your truth. But if you start with the practice of being polite, it is a way to balance strong emotional content with a little reason. It gives you a chance to consider before reacting. After the initial cork politeness puts into the bottle of triggered emotions, you can then communicate the truth as you see it and be more reasonable about it rather than reactive emotionally.

I am more of an intellectual than an emotional person, but that does not mean I don't have deep emotions. I have deep compassion, deep feelings, and deep reasoning. It is not in my nature to speak lovey-dovey and unicorns and rainbows; that feels fake to me. Politeness is my way of giving myself a little pause so I don't hurt someone because I have been triggered or because the truth of a situation is obvious to me. It is frankly something I deal with—balancing truth with kindness.

A good example is during the last election. The people around me were all freaking out because Trump was this, and Hilary was the savior, and everyone was operating from this bipartisan nonsense (in my opinion). Politeness served me well in this situation. I was able to debate the subject with reasonableness instead of exasperation at what I thought was ignorance being spewed from otherwise intelligent people. I am usually detached, but we are all triggered occasionally.