Depression and Accepting or Resisting Futility

[Ixchel]

Thanks for your input loostudent. When I say "Futility" I'm talking about some things you can never change. Maybe it's not futile to have my romantic and social needs met, but I'm having to accept the futility of ever getting my friend back. Call it black and white, but what shade of gray is there? There doesn't seem to be any hope she'll ever come around in the future, and that's painful, but maybe I won't be so depressed if I can come to terms with it and learn to accept it, rather than telling myself "I have to be able to convince my friend! I need reconciliation! I need to believe there's still hope!" you know what I mean?

Still, comparing myself to myself yesterday and not people doing better than me is probably really good advice.

I've heard it said, when you focus on higher your frequency and where you are there, you will get to a better level and attract what you need. If that's her it will be if not its not meant for you but someone else.
Holding on keeps you stagnant and in depression focus on raising.