how to FORGIVE ANYTHING

[EvolvingPhoenix]

i am schubert. how do you forgive someone? the best method ive found is to understand where they were coming form. put yourself in their shoes and think about why they did what they did, imagine how you might feel and act in that situation.

Sometimes, their reasons for what they do aren't very sympathetic. I'm working on forgiveness myself... The chief person I'm trying to forgive being myself.
Best way to forgive I can think of is to just remind yourself you're not above doing unforgivable things yet deserve forgiveness for whatever you did. That and to remind yourself that holding a grudge against them does nothing to teach them anything and even if it does, continuing to hold onto it after they've learned is just needless. The people I need to forgive will go their whole lives unrepentant except for one. My holding a grudge doesn't change them. It just holds me down. Forgiving myself is a whole other challenge because the person I wronged will not forgive me, and it's hard to forgive myself when they won't forgive me. But I'm working on it.