01-01-2019, 06:17 PM
I didn't come here to fight and I can answer that with confidence and grace. There are many among us who are already prepared to fight and I am not one of those souls. That does not mean one should endure abuse or stonewall while watching another be abused, but that my personal method of solving such problems would not be violence, but non-aggressive de-escalation. So it is that faced with something, here is how I do my best to respond:
-Silence/listening.
-A gentle statement of my truth if I'm called to "join in the fun", as it were–one of the negativities I often encountered was an invitation to gossip, spreading and entertaining negativity about another's life. I found often these people were quite content to simply talk themselves into corners and walls, but were they to ask, then I might respond by saying, "Every time I've interacted with X has been pleasant. So how's your grandkid's doing?"
-So, diversion.
-Gratitude. If someone comes at me with negative criticism out of nowhere or something snide... well, my appetite has been low but I'm pretty big, so I remarked on this and got a "it's probably a good thing" and instead of snapping back, continued along that path to say, "Yes, thanks for noticing, I have been having struggles related to my weight and I hope this leads to healthy weight loss rather than being a current indication of illness and is indication that I've finally learned to estimate the amount of food I've been eating." So I rolled with it as a non-negative sentence prompt instead of a snide, passive aggressive remark on my size.
Gratitude has been the message I've been getting more often than not, to respond to all things grateful for the catalyst because it's mine to respond, and that is what makes and breaks a good person.
I used to always, at least if it was my family, engage back. My poor mother, I was so quiet over Christmas this year because I was avoiding anything that might possibly set me off. I'm very balanced now, very quiet, and I start nothing, no drama, no arguments, no matter how stupid of a thing a relative might have to say. Not my immediate family though, not so much. I have a circumstance that differs from many of my lightworkers across the world. My family is full of people like me. At least 2 other family members have seen UFOs, 3+ have seen ghosts including 2 who saw the SAME ghost as me and corroborated the story independently with mom (we didn't realize we'd all seen the same ghost in the same room as children until mom brought it up later). At least one sees auras, at least one has an awareness of the separation of their body and spirit, two+ have healing/calming powers, I'm pretty sure Dad incarnated intentionally into his family line to end certain karamic trauma, though he may not word it that way, he might and I just haven't spoken to him about it. I might be the only one who sees what a hell of a job he had to do to ready the family line for the generation of lightworkers he and mom ended up producing but that doesn't change the fact that we're all a lil... mystic.
It amuses me when I see people hella stressed by their family of extroverts who don't get the mystic stuff. I got the other option, the greener grass route of having introverted parents and introverted siblings who've all had at least ONE paranormal thing happen in their life. When I was a teen there was SO MUCH SCREAMING and it was extremely stressful. Believe me, there's still conflict in a family full of mystics. We're all still extraordinarily cautious about sharing our weird. I see future potential for us to use each other as great gifts of allies though and I am (and I think my dad is also) dropping lil nuggets and shavings of what I engage in to see where things stick and where things melt away.
Endure, forgive, sometimes it's worth it. Use your best judgement. I like to think we aimed at our families for a reason (perhaps that reason only being catalyst to help you see who you are though!) and for them I will allow a lot more wiggle room for forgiveness of assholery and they give it to me as well. I like to think I picked out mine in advance, maybe had an agreement with the next two to come join me.
It does make it all worth it that I stuck it through the hard things with them, having these people who are of my blood and will stand with me and say, "Yeah we saw a ghost/UFO, what of it?" It's nice having a sister who told me what she perceived in my aura (supporting what I saw in my own) and maybe she thinks it's nice having a sister who found ley line grid maps and shared them with her instead of laughing and moving on with life.
When it comes to social media and people who are not my family or friends? I don't fight. I might exchange a few messages and try call people out on being crappy humans in what I aim for as an inspiring way. For example, on Reddit I suggest to people who are upset about seeing reposts that they could get a hobby other than Reddit if it's upsetting them. I try to inspire people to look for options rather than accuse though sometimes I slip up and I behave like I used to, a drama-seeking, manipulative lil ham.
When it comes to real life? I've made my human stop the car so I could go check on someone sleeping in a bus shelter where there isn't usually anyone sleeping, I've sat between a hijabi and a jerk and chatted about the latest Angelina Jolie movie as if she was my best friend until it was her, I've let my bus pass me by so I could sit with someone homeless and lonely and buy them a sub and a coffee, I've invited strangers to eat with me in a restaurant because they begged for a quarter for coffee in passing. I'm small and non-violent, but I will absolutely inject myself into a stranger's life if I think I can help, and invite them into mine. I know I can't defuse two strong men at arms against each other, so I pick my battles. If someone's telling a homeless guy to get a job and I'm right there and armed with the money to take that dude for coffee? You can bet I'll push my way in and greet him like he's my brother and invite him to come out for a coffee and leave these losers for a while. If I didn't have the cash? Y'know, I'd still fake a way into the conversation to try save someone from being publicly humiliated.
So I'm no fighter, I fight back with kindness and gratitude and tiny lil acts of mercy in a dark world. I abide by this weird little code: that if I get the chance to share my dinner with a stranger, I will say yes, and treat them like they were my family. And if I help someone with a gift of any kind and they say, "let me repay you when I have the money" I say, "When you have the means in the future, and are met with the call to help someone with an unnecessary act of kindness, help them under the same terms."
Always. I ask for no credit, nothing in return except that they keep the ball rolling. I've helped dozens of people. What if they too help dozens of people once their lives are back in order? What if even ONE of them helps dozens of people? I know recently, a woman I assisted said she was inspired to go start volunteering at the shelter because I helped her with a thing she truly didn't expect to have someone offer to relieve and some other people helped her too and she made it through. She has children, so what if her children now grow up seeing mommy go to the shelter to volunteer? And those children start spreading goodness throughout the world because they grow up poor, but seeing that even though their life is rough, they still can help with what they have... etc etc. That's how I fight back. I'm infecting the population with the power of random acts of kindness, with goodness that will ripple to the surface when 15 years from now, a man who was once hungry now has a full time job and the memory of being there and the power to change someone else's present. People talk. People remember.
An act of mercy is not in vain.
This good was not born of me. It was gifted and handed down to me as well, by my house human, by my father, by my grandmother, by paragons of light within my family and up and onwards. It is how I fight back and how I am bringing order. We live in the shadow of a world that used violence which begets only violence. I truly believe that fighting back with kindness will in the long term, change the world.
-Silence/listening.
-A gentle statement of my truth if I'm called to "join in the fun", as it were–one of the negativities I often encountered was an invitation to gossip, spreading and entertaining negativity about another's life. I found often these people were quite content to simply talk themselves into corners and walls, but were they to ask, then I might respond by saying, "Every time I've interacted with X has been pleasant. So how's your grandkid's doing?"
-So, diversion.
-Gratitude. If someone comes at me with negative criticism out of nowhere or something snide... well, my appetite has been low but I'm pretty big, so I remarked on this and got a "it's probably a good thing" and instead of snapping back, continued along that path to say, "Yes, thanks for noticing, I have been having struggles related to my weight and I hope this leads to healthy weight loss rather than being a current indication of illness and is indication that I've finally learned to estimate the amount of food I've been eating." So I rolled with it as a non-negative sentence prompt instead of a snide, passive aggressive remark on my size.
Gratitude has been the message I've been getting more often than not, to respond to all things grateful for the catalyst because it's mine to respond, and that is what makes and breaks a good person.
I used to always, at least if it was my family, engage back. My poor mother, I was so quiet over Christmas this year because I was avoiding anything that might possibly set me off. I'm very balanced now, very quiet, and I start nothing, no drama, no arguments, no matter how stupid of a thing a relative might have to say. Not my immediate family though, not so much. I have a circumstance that differs from many of my lightworkers across the world. My family is full of people like me. At least 2 other family members have seen UFOs, 3+ have seen ghosts including 2 who saw the SAME ghost as me and corroborated the story independently with mom (we didn't realize we'd all seen the same ghost in the same room as children until mom brought it up later). At least one sees auras, at least one has an awareness of the separation of their body and spirit, two+ have healing/calming powers, I'm pretty sure Dad incarnated intentionally into his family line to end certain karamic trauma, though he may not word it that way, he might and I just haven't spoken to him about it. I might be the only one who sees what a hell of a job he had to do to ready the family line for the generation of lightworkers he and mom ended up producing but that doesn't change the fact that we're all a lil... mystic.
It amuses me when I see people hella stressed by their family of extroverts who don't get the mystic stuff. I got the other option, the greener grass route of having introverted parents and introverted siblings who've all had at least ONE paranormal thing happen in their life. When I was a teen there was SO MUCH SCREAMING and it was extremely stressful. Believe me, there's still conflict in a family full of mystics. We're all still extraordinarily cautious about sharing our weird. I see future potential for us to use each other as great gifts of allies though and I am (and I think my dad is also) dropping lil nuggets and shavings of what I engage in to see where things stick and where things melt away.
Endure, forgive, sometimes it's worth it. Use your best judgement. I like to think we aimed at our families for a reason (perhaps that reason only being catalyst to help you see who you are though!) and for them I will allow a lot more wiggle room for forgiveness of assholery and they give it to me as well. I like to think I picked out mine in advance, maybe had an agreement with the next two to come join me.
It does make it all worth it that I stuck it through the hard things with them, having these people who are of my blood and will stand with me and say, "Yeah we saw a ghost/UFO, what of it?" It's nice having a sister who told me what she perceived in my aura (supporting what I saw in my own) and maybe she thinks it's nice having a sister who found ley line grid maps and shared them with her instead of laughing and moving on with life.When it comes to social media and people who are not my family or friends? I don't fight. I might exchange a few messages and try call people out on being crappy humans in what I aim for as an inspiring way. For example, on Reddit I suggest to people who are upset about seeing reposts that they could get a hobby other than Reddit if it's upsetting them. I try to inspire people to look for options rather than accuse though sometimes I slip up and I behave like I used to, a drama-seeking, manipulative lil ham.
When it comes to real life? I've made my human stop the car so I could go check on someone sleeping in a bus shelter where there isn't usually anyone sleeping, I've sat between a hijabi and a jerk and chatted about the latest Angelina Jolie movie as if she was my best friend until it was her, I've let my bus pass me by so I could sit with someone homeless and lonely and buy them a sub and a coffee, I've invited strangers to eat with me in a restaurant because they begged for a quarter for coffee in passing. I'm small and non-violent, but I will absolutely inject myself into a stranger's life if I think I can help, and invite them into mine. I know I can't defuse two strong men at arms against each other, so I pick my battles. If someone's telling a homeless guy to get a job and I'm right there and armed with the money to take that dude for coffee? You can bet I'll push my way in and greet him like he's my brother and invite him to come out for a coffee and leave these losers for a while.
If I didn't have the cash? Y'know, I'd still fake a way into the conversation to try save someone from being publicly humiliated.So I'm no fighter, I fight back with kindness and gratitude and tiny lil acts of mercy in a dark world. I abide by this weird little code: that if I get the chance to share my dinner with a stranger, I will say yes, and treat them like they were my family. And if I help someone with a gift of any kind and they say, "let me repay you when I have the money" I say, "When you have the means in the future, and are met with the call to help someone with an unnecessary act of kindness, help them under the same terms."
Always. I ask for no credit, nothing in return except that they keep the ball rolling. I've helped dozens of people. What if they too help dozens of people once their lives are back in order? What if even ONE of them helps dozens of people? I know recently, a woman I assisted said she was inspired to go start volunteering at the shelter because I helped her with a thing she truly didn't expect to have someone offer to relieve and some other people helped her too and she made it through. She has children, so what if her children now grow up seeing mommy go to the shelter to volunteer? And those children start spreading goodness throughout the world because they grow up poor, but seeing that even though their life is rough, they still can help with what they have... etc etc. That's how I fight back. I'm infecting the population with the power of random acts of kindness, with goodness that will ripple to the surface when 15 years from now, a man who was once hungry now has a full time job and the memory of being there and the power to change someone else's present. People talk. People remember.
An act of mercy is not in vain.
This good was not born of me. It was gifted and handed down to me as well, by my house human, by my father, by my grandmother, by paragons of light within my family and up and onwards. It is how I fight back and how I am bringing order. We live in the shadow of a world that used violence which begets only violence. I truly believe that fighting back with kindness will in the long term, change the world.
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