Is this a cold decision?

[EvolvingPhoenix]

A lot of painful things to have to hear while reading these. I should be grateful though that the friendship breakup is bringing about these realizations in me. I just find myself thinking "If only I could reconcile now that I've changed" You know? That's why I say never shut someone out completely. Let them grow and change and consider that maybe, with enough time down the line, they can be accepted again as friends. Anodyne, you don't know how much that friend may have grown and changed since the friend dumping. Perhaps you should contact them again and see? I know I'm not the same person I was 3 months ago, much less a year ago, which is about how long it's been since I was friend dumped. Much of what you say about your friend is true for me, but I changed. Never lose faith in somebody and their ability to change.