Is this a cold decision?

[Cainite]

I'm still processing this catalyst. and I feel I shall have to deal with it for a while..
my current attitude : as the creator, we're worthy of the highest things but should still be tolerant of imperfections like selfishness but avoid seeking close relationships with selfish people.

So I've been advising my mother to avoid her crazy sister.
And she advised me to not avoid my sister's husband.
She's very simple and unaware of the politics of other people.
Maybe I need to see more ''positively'' as she said.. but I rather not force it. it always backfires when I do that.