The cord is back.

[Stranger]

What if you are living with the person that you have the boundary issue with?

GentleReckoning, in all longstanding disharmonious patterns of interaction with others, we (and they) automatically create within ourselves accumulations of emotion - e.g., bitterness, resentment, fear, etc. (These exist as crystallized chunks of energy within our astral body). Their effect is to provide inertia against the healing of the relationship: even if the other person's behavior changes, we continue to feel those emotions toward them because they are now stored within our emotional selves, and often get triggered by the mere presence or even thought of the individual.

Therefore, the technique in my post above will still be helpful in identifying and releasing at least some of that inertia-producing emotional baggage.

With that achieved, you are saying that you are continuing to interact with that individual, so even with past hurts harmonized, there remains the opportunity to continue getting sucked into a karmic vortex with them, accumulating more baggage.

The best solution I can suggest (and I think it's a pretty good one) consists of two parts: boundaries and love.

Boundaries are essential. We do not owe it to anyone to continue allowing them to hurt us in any way. Therefore, whoever they are, whatever the biological or other relationship (unless it's a young child, etc.), if they are unwilling to stop their hurtful behavior after being asked, it is perfectly acceptable to leave - and it's a far better option than to continue dancing the karmic dance with them. Leaving can be permanent (cut ties) or temporary (as soon as the hurtful behavior starts, calmly walk away).

The second part to this is love. Even if someone is unable or unwilling to be in harmony with us, we can be in harmony with them. This is achieved by healing the hurt and angry parts of ourselves (by loving them), which then makes it easier to avoid retaliating, behaviorally or emotionally, against the other person. They end up in a conflict alone, because we are no longer in a conflict with them. We choose not to hurt them regardless of their behavior, and therefore do no accumulate karma.

The two methods are complementary. Establishing good boundaries with someone makes it easier to love away their hurtful aspects that manage to get through, if any, in the same way that dealing with small breaches in a fence is easier than trying to protect an unfenced area.

I cannot say more without knowing the specifics of the situation, but hope this helps.