STS Individual Taking Advantage of STO Individual

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Thank you all for your amazing responses. Venting these issues has served as an amazing catalyst and i spoke with my partner on all of these issues in depth yesterday.

I think they are truly on the path of positive growth, at whatever pace is does not matter.

I ultimately came here to help and putting myself into their shoes (schizophrenic, much childhood trauma) I can very much empathize with them and i think thats why im here.

I like to think of myself as a very patient person, I forgive amazingly easy and put up with all sorts of things (of course i too have a breaking point). They truly need me in their life because many people of perhaps higher self-serving orentation would sense these issues or stress or many other factors and simply run away.

Ultimately I stay because i want to stay. Upon the consideration of leaving i see nothing beneficial coming out of it. I love seeing them grow, i love helping them. That is enough as a reward. Without them there, as something to grow with and work on ourselves together, life would seem much more dull.

Another factor is that several months ago, we decided to have a child together. And im very certain that this child will bring nothing but light into our hearts, in turn healing my partner in perhaps ways i could not, or perhaps in ways they could not on their own.

My partner is very much appreciative of my help, i suppose i just seeked more affirmations of this or perhaps the slow growth tricked me into thinking there was no progress being made. But this individual, already, has metamorphosed and in turn, has helped me to do the same.

I dont truly think they are a STS individual, and i think this was a misinterpretation no my part as i study more and more into the material.

We are all a certain percentage of both. I think i was just focusing on some of the more unsavory aspects and putting myself in the high seat. I'm not perfect, of course not. Nobody is perfect. If it werent for these imperfections we would have nothing to work towards and nothing to achieve.

I greatly appreciative the love and light you all have provided to me in this thread, it helped me to gather the courage to say something in such a way that it struck home. I think another lesson of mine to learn here is to speak up for myself. I very much suck at speaking up for myself and my partner frequently serves as the perfect catalyst to invoke this action in me.

Thanks, once again for all the comments. I am truly blessed.