(02-24-2018, 06:51 PM)IndigoGeminiWolf Wrote: I think if we make amends for what we've done, we can alleviate karma.
I think a need to make amend is a blockage to find full forgiveness. It's not that making amend is not good, it certainly is, but that you have a personal reason to need to so that you find to forgive your own self. In having forgiven and being without need to make amend, you're still with potential to do good, simply not through the lenses of fear, doubt and shame.
I always felt this way with apologies, I dislike receiving them even more than I dislike giving them. Most of every time in my life someone has given me an apology, it left me feeling awkward like I didn't need them because I didn't feel like I had anything to forgive. Same the other way around, if I don't lack forgiveness toward myself then apologies don't make sense to be offered, I wish the other person to release their grudge for themselves more than I want to be seen as acceptable and fight for it, and to find forgiveness means to accept yourself as the mental image you held, and this requires inner work and facing your own emotions. I guess it's maybe because I'm strong in being without expectations, when I see shortcomings in others I feel more like I learn about them than I feel a contrast with how I've wanted them to be; if I discover someone has anger issues, then I contemplate what it means to be stuck with anger and how it tends to erupt in focused contexts where it seems disproportionate to that moment but yet was really accumulated over time and from different sources, how sometimes repressing it makes it erupt only in the most proximate people in one's life to maintain an image of being without it with others. From this, then I can see the intelligence of anger, it's rightfulness to find expression and nothing is unacceptable so much as it can be seen and understood as a fate, a story, each unique. I felt this way before even learning of Oneness, and perceiving each self as literally one another in different circumstances to realize the same inner self. I guess before where I intuitively saw Oneness in was life, I saw each person as an expression of life and so something to be understood.
Anyway, what stops the wheel of karma is forgiveness, for only in forgiveness are the charges truly released, rather than accumulated until they are so strong they need to be passed unto other-selves to find to be distilled finally. Karma moves from one to the others in this way, always an energy seeking to be understood and accepted, to find to be transmuted in forgiveness. In forgiving as a self, you stop the energy from propagating twisted through you, and instead alleviate it.