Service vs Disservice

[rva_jeremy]

I don't care what excuse they have, I don't care how traumatized they were as a child, at the end of the day they CHOOSE to continue the cycle and they need to be stopped.

OK, just keep in mind that they are you and you they. It's a radical idea that isn't designed to accommodate our knee-jerk reactions and moral sensibilities. It's a philosophy designed to explain the totality of the universe and experience.

To the extent you want to view things through the victim/perpetrator dichotomy, it's going to be hard to accept them. But eventually you will. So it's no big deal if you need to process these feelings, feel free, we've all been there.