12-12-2017, 02:52 PM
(12-12-2017, 06:11 AM)YinYang Wrote: Of course I'm hoping for equilibrium, C_A, balance is core in the Ra material, and all mystical literature. I have no reason to hate men, C_A, I have never been sexually abused or harassed, and I have always loved intimacy with men. I must be one of the lucky ones. I have seen ruthlessness in the workplace in both sexes, and I have seen behaviour worthy of the Nobel Peace Prize (when it still meant something) in both sexes. I have said earlier in this thread that I am fairly gender blind, it is a catalyst that I have pretty much been spared in my life.
The forgiveness will come after justice has been served. In South Africa the Truth & Reconciliation Commission at the end of apartheid was vital for forgiveness. In Rwanda they have a similar reconciliation program after the genocide, where victims come face to face with the perpetrators. Imagine looking someone in the eye who slaughtered your entire family. It is noteworthy that all perpetrators were male, that's one manifestation of the imbalance I was talking about. Think about it. The difference between these proceedings and another injustice we're looking at in this thread, is that these perpetrators are admitting to their deeds, whereas all we've seen from these high profile men who are falling like dominoes is "I didn't do it" "that's not how I remember it" bla-bla-bla, no going forward, not yet.... a deadlock.
Women still can't get men to admit to the injustices that have been committed... which is why this is causing so much anger.
That's actually a very notable differentiation. I think there are some men who admit it, but sadly none of us are high profile enough it'd seem.
Why are you surprised by wealthy greedy men lying about their behavior? Bill Clinton himself lied to a court about being involved sexually with someone, it is their way of life.
Please don't judge all of us guys, many, many of us are aware if at least vaguely of the suffering women must experience at times in a still very prejudiced world. Just please, please, when you see those men denying such things, realize as balance, many many many other men are admitting to it.
I see such in myself, hence I call myself misogynistic, I don't hate women though, but the ways society teach us all to be towards each other, but maybe calling myself androgynistic is also valid, as I'm generally more disgusted by men than women in 'typical' learned behaviors of society.
I knew a guy who would be with two different girls a week and would use them, then call them sluts and stop talking to them. After seeing it go on 4 weeks straight I stopped talking to him.
I want nothing to do with that, it is wrong. No matter how much he'd get drunk and cry to me about being lonely and sad with an alcoholic mother and no father, that doesn't make it okay to USE and HURT people, especially sexually, especially emotionally, most of those girls would text him asking why he would be so cruel to them, and he'd just show me and laugh even as I would look at him disturbed.
So I'm highly aware of those things, or at least enough so to have a radar on when things aren't okay.
I feel the same way about gender blindness, its just it took the Law of One for me to realize one of the things wrong in my life was labeling male and female. I now see masculine and feminine as almost abstractions of identifiers for concepts, no man is all man, no woman is all woman, we are however all one.
So when I see sexism, or even racism, I try to think, this is catalyst to teach us something about ourselves, something about love.
I don't know what it means yet, but I'm always thinking back to those ism's, their roots, and ideas for how to end that suffering. But you know, that stuff is in me too. So I'm not only looking to heal others of those things, but myself too.
I would argue, everyone contains those ism's on a gradient scale, if you immediately deny it then you definitely do. Those things are learned behaviors, and we are monkeys, we copy what we see. Our children pick it up too. So, to me, the first way to stop this oppression beyond awareness, is to stop teaching it to others. However I don't mean to uneducate others, but more...
Well... I learned racism from my father... Ugh... And sexism. Had I never been exposed to the n word, I'd have never seen a black person differently, and had I never been exposed to my father calling my mother a slut, I'd have never identified any women in that way.
I think it is really important to protect against perpetuation of such energies, and I think to do that we all must teach the next generations to think differently, to be almost devoid of concepts such as judgment by color or sex, and to not make serious differentiations between ethnicity, culture, and gender, or overall, to not judge identity.
YinYang, you're still cool with me, everyone here is, I want to see you as me in another identity, so I choose to, and that is my choice. I harbor pain from being used by women but I will not let that be an excuse to treat women badly. I call myself misogynistic but truthfully I just want all those that hurt me to know I'll forgive them, but I want them to know they hurt me, so they'll be more conscious of it should they ever look at things with a Spiritual eye, and maybe they'll find forgiveness for themselves more deeply as such.
Eitherway, I want to move forward, we should celebrate the ends of so many terrible things, no one should be set ablaze.
I remember the first Assassins Creed. There was a target, in I think Damascus, whom was having a trial. A woman is sitting there tied up next to two men, the target, some wealthy guy, proclaims her unfaithful, she pleads he's just executing her for not sleeping with him. I remember the first time he killed her in that game, I was actually shocked and disturbed by the content, almost raged, broke low profile to stop the whole thing from continuing.
If a video game portrayal effected me, the real life equivalent, I think I can assuredly say, would make me vomit in literal sickness that that can happen and did, and has and might still be.
Who decided a good punishment for anyone was killing them? Especially slowly?
It's just so sad... Just thinking about it is making me feel sick to my stomach.
I want to focus instead towards what Diana has said. I mean look at me, I'm basically hypocritical at this point with my outbursts. Yet I persist. I apologize and maybe its not as deep as I hoped it to be but my focus is on picking myself back up. And doing better.
I think Diana portrayed what I was trying to get at. Healing pain for me is akin to letting go, sadly pain can become an old companion. Decades of that pain compounds it, and it may become as close as family. Letting go of that familiar pain may be painful in and of itself.
Letting go of things transforms us. The death of suffering rebirths a person.
All I want is to fix all of these bad things. I think a good start is myself.