Why Aren't Men Fighting Back? - The Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

[Jade]

KEVIN SPACEY, has had a recent milieu of claims made against him by other men whom all say he sexually harassed them.  (And this may be totally inappropriate but for comic relief, I must say though, I don't think Kevin Spacey could sexually harass me ah hah hah hahah! Anyway.)

I'm sorry Joseph, but this IS an inappropriate joke, because it invalidates the first half of your post. This is a real person with real victims, and by making a joke, it appears that you don't take the issue seriously, at all - including your abhorrence at the idea that an erection equals consent. Why perpetuate that, even jokingly, if it causes you pain?

That's on top of the agenda to fill the heads of young girls with ideas of what a boy is, and what a girl is.  Now women are wearing anything they want, some even want to walk around topless!  And the men's plea to this distraction is called gross, our sexuality is determined as disgusting, or at the least, dirty.  How dare we tell a woman what to wear!  How dare we ask her to cover her thighs and midsection and butt cheeks and under boob!  We're such dirty nasty men for even looking!

You mentioned quite a bit about society infantalizing men - which I don't think is an inaccurate assessment necessarily. Don't you think part of that infantalization is boob fetishization? It's the drive of the infant who sees the breasts as irresistible, because they are food. That is their *actual* allure, and why when your brain sees them, you get pleasure. Did you know it's possible to NOT be aroused by the female breasts all the time? Men constantly give power to women by choosing to be overwhelmed by their "sexuality." Most women aren't deliberately trying to arouse you, regardless of what they wear, even if their breasts are out - unless they are in a strip club or you are about to make love, their breasts are a part of the body that can remain unsexualized. This is why porn addiction is dangerous, because it hardwires the brain to see naked as sex. Naked is not sexual, naked is natural, and women AND men should be able to feel like they don't have to cover themselves up to prevent unwanted aggression.

Sorry if I'm derailing the thread, I just want to have a legitimate conversation about this if we are going to - and not one full of exaggerations, misconceptions, etc. I know men are raped and sexually assaulted, and they are often victimized even further afterwards, but we can't continue to perpetuate that "men can't be raped", even as a joke, and we also need to stop perpetuating that people need to protect their naked bodies with a layer of armor to prevent causing overwhelming sexual desire in strangers.