12-01-2017, 10:47 AM
It is not too late for you. It’s never too late. These are the central themes of your life lessons. I can’t say exactly what those lessons are, but you’re able to discern that for yourself.
I don’t know exactly what to advise... but I am here for you. You have a friend in me.
I’ve had very difficult relationships with some people, such as my father. I truly thought that the relationship would never heal, but here I am now and significant progress has been made, imo. I’m not angry all the time. I’m no longer self conscious being around my dad. I don’t have thoughts of hate or ill will towards him. What helped me reach this point was the opening of the heart in acceptance and understanding. By looking at myself in my father, I’m able to see that he’s just like me. He has his pain and sorrow and joy and happiness. He’s just trying to do the best that he can. He’s made many mistakes, imo, but I can finally forgive him and move on. (Again I still have work to do. I don’t presume to think I’ve completed this life lesson.)
So, one is looking at his own pain. It’s looking at those experiences that caused one pain and going through the experiences in mind, in meditation. I’ve noticed that uncomfortable and painful memories have been coming up in meditation lately. When that happens I realize right away: “do not push this away. Look at it.”
It gets easier and you feel that it’s not so dangerous or painful, that you can do this! And you feel a lot better when you do! Find forgiveness within your heart for yourself and for those who have hurt you or would. After that foundation of love is laid, we can begin working on wisdom. How to not let people abuse you or manipulate you. How to lovingly say “no”, for example. Anyway, that’s just my approach.
I love you Apotheosis. You’re one of the thoughtful ones here! I think you are a strong person and you will definitely get through your life lessons. You wouldn’t have chosen to undertake them if you didn’t think that you could learn them. All is well my friend! We are here for you. I am here for you.
I don’t know exactly what to advise... but I am here for you. You have a friend in me.
I’ve had very difficult relationships with some people, such as my father. I truly thought that the relationship would never heal, but here I am now and significant progress has been made, imo. I’m not angry all the time. I’m no longer self conscious being around my dad. I don’t have thoughts of hate or ill will towards him. What helped me reach this point was the opening of the heart in acceptance and understanding. By looking at myself in my father, I’m able to see that he’s just like me. He has his pain and sorrow and joy and happiness. He’s just trying to do the best that he can. He’s made many mistakes, imo, but I can finally forgive him and move on. (Again I still have work to do. I don’t presume to think I’ve completed this life lesson.)
So, one is looking at his own pain. It’s looking at those experiences that caused one pain and going through the experiences in mind, in meditation. I’ve noticed that uncomfortable and painful memories have been coming up in meditation lately. When that happens I realize right away: “do not push this away. Look at it.”
It gets easier and you feel that it’s not so dangerous or painful, that you can do this! And you feel a lot better when you do! Find forgiveness within your heart for yourself and for those who have hurt you or would. After that foundation of love is laid, we can begin working on wisdom. How to not let people abuse you or manipulate you. How to lovingly say “no”, for example. Anyway, that’s just my approach.
I love you Apotheosis. You’re one of the thoughtful ones here! I think you are a strong person and you will definitely get through your life lessons. You wouldn’t have chosen to undertake them if you didn’t think that you could learn them. All is well my friend! We are here for you. I am here for you.
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