(11-25-2017, 05:49 AM)Coordinate_Apotheosis Wrote: I like to think one whom is awakened but greatly depressed at the new reality they've awakened to can go back to a half-awake lull. I feel like I have anyways. I also directly resonate with the idea of if they wish to sleep, let them sleep.I think you totally get the big picture and I am trying to follow that path I can as best as possible.
Sometimes we're not ready to wake up even if we already have woken up. It's like in The Matrix, you don't unplug a person beyond a certain age, it is dangerous and irresponsible because they've grown too dependent on the system, the shock to their minds' that none of it is real, is enough to break them, make them do crazy things they would never have done one way or another.
I think alcohol however is different, it is not suppression, it is in a way worse. The adage, to drown away one's sorrows, comes to mind. You cannot drown away sorrow, and drinking is more likely disrupting the neural circuitry from even being able to process the events of the day, leaving them to the total rawness of the subconscious.
Hence why, in my opinion, people who drink are more prone to emotional instability or at the very least, emotional irresponsibility.
Glow, have you ever thought of trying to get him to talk to you while he's drunk? It's amazing what comes out of a person's mouth when booze has their neural patterns all loopy and out of whack. Or more, have you ever tried to get him to introspectively notice that he uses alcohol in a dangerous way?
I'm aware people have been drinking for over a thousand years, but it doesn't change the fact that accrued alcoholic usage, DAILY, has irreversible effects on the brain that pretty much reduces a person's mental an emotional capacities towards irrationality, which would compound any emotional or mental issues one might be trying to process.
It isn't suppression, suppression is akin to pushing down the thoughts, this is substance abuse, and it is no different from me lighting up a bowl of weed to calm myself down from being angry (I don't think so anyways). It is not right to abuse a substance to control yourself, and while I think you're doing perfectly right as you are, I wonder if you're willing to risk making a proactive move in pointing out to him that you're worried about his drinking?
You seem like a kindly enough person to be able to touch on such a sensitive subject with the tenderness and gentleness needed to initiate a healing response, or at the very least, to not make him mad at you for bringing it up.
It's like how I occasionally try to get my friend who has a terrible time reading (because he was born 4 months premature and special education in Arizona can't educate worth their salary) that we need to get him to read more often so that he doesn't struggle with it as much. Or how I try to get all of my friends to get out of the house and instead of sitting in front of tv screens playing video games, get us to all go out and kick a ball or something.
Sure, I fail often, but whenever I bring it up, it makes me feel a bit better knowing that at least I'm trying, even if they don't want it, at least I offered. Maybe one day, they'll take the offer, and we can all read a manga together (like Akumetsu!), or play Tennis or just get away from the video games...
Unfortunately I am for him an awakening catalyst as he was for me so I can only offer what is asked. I am always there and on tough weeks I have been there to hold him up(via phone for upwards of 2 hours,) so that does decrease the drinking from where it would be, but down side to much awakening catalyst(remembrance of home vibration) and you need to drown it out even more. It is a tough balance.
Oddly the day after I posted this originally he phoned me upset and we actually talked a bit again about the drinking. I wish he could sleep happily but it seems even sleeping is getting harder. I recommended instead of facing things head on as they are he work on his old wounds that got him here. Maybe then everything would slowly slip into place, and big picture from my perspective is then awakening would be less traumatic when that material wounds were already faced. Who knows right?We are all trying as best we can. He has incredible will so I dont think the alcohol will be such an issue once the problems, and denial of remembrance are dealt with.
(((hugs))) a few of your posts made me REALLY laugh and smile today in recognition of your heart so I appreciate those moments fellow wanderer.