If they are happy-ish why want anyone to awaken?

[rva_jeremy]

Hey Glow, I'm on your side. One of the features of service that I feel is the hardest to grasp in our rule-based, morality-ridden, ideological world is that the kind of truly touching service that really gets through to people is not based on broad, impersonal principles but is very intimate, individual-to-individual. That means when one serves, one serves best when serving a particular aspect of the Creator, a particular individual on a particular path. To actually meet a unique part of the Creator where they're at on their terms takes a lot of balance for the person serving, because it means you can't simply apply stock rules and principles but instead have to "freestyle channel" the love and light to a completely new situation.

I think this is a lot of the problem with charity and social work, for instance. Well-meaning folks are often induced to view a disadvantaged person as a single, deracinated, featureless instance of a more general mass social problem rather than a unique individual with a path, a history, a way of expressing the Creator that deserves individual attention. To serve them best is to serve them in their individuality, not simply them in their superficial role within our yellow-ray matrix of relations.

What matters is not so much what you say as the sincerity with which you say it, the connection you convey by saying it, the love you demonstrate in speaking to a unique situation, the care you show in taking the time and effort to make this particular person the valued center of your attention. That speaks louder than the words. And I know that, having dispensed this advice, you will also be there for them in the future, holding their hand as they stumble, celebrating them as they pick themselves up, reflecting the best within them as a matter of pure being.

To deal with the specifics: I don't think it's wrong to allow people to sleep, to allow people to self-medicate. What's the alternative? Compulsion to move forward before they're ready? No, free will must be held paramount. That doesn't mean "tough love" is somehow always wrong; it just means "tough love" has to speak, once again, to a particular condition, not a general condition.

I applaud your desire to reflect on these questions. This is how we balance our service within the illusion. Good luck to you and especially your friend, who is lucky to have you.