The feeling of grief from loss of loved ones

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In the case of loss or distance, neither exist outside the material the love feeling turning in to that painful grief is basically our love for the otherself not being able to be shared/expressed.. I have been having instant relief by simply asking my guides to please send the love to those I cannot reach. It’s blocked at the throat because of our inability due to death/time/space to express it.

Great insight - this must be why therapists will sometimes ask grieving people to write a letter to the one they've lost with everything left unspoken.  Getting things out on paper releases the emotion.

On the spiritual side of the same coin, it is only an illusion that we can no longer reach our loved ones after their death.  We can reach them just fine; they have trouble reaching us back - mostly because we're not paying attention to the subtle perceptions coming from the spirit, because our senses are filled with the very loud and noisy physical sensorium.  

However there is still no separation between us and our loved ones, and the separation we believe exists is simply a belief - because we hold the belief that we can't reach them, we don't bother to try.  It's another one of those situations where we have the ability to do something, but don't know that we can do it.

All it takes is to think about the person, not worrying about where they are or how, and speak to them or express our feelings toward them just as if they were right here with you.  Because truly there is no distance.

While there is intellectual truth in what you are both saying, and perhaps some emotional relief, for me this is not the full reality here. Having "conversations" and writing feelings down is indeed good therapy. But being here without the lost loved one can be difficult no matter how healthy a perspective one can attain.

Obviously it doesn't negate wishing they could have continued to be here and share our lives, missing their cuddles, scent, or bad jokes. :-/
For me its been years, years of crying, praying, counseling, meditating, balancing, recaping and still the tears come... one in particular hurts the most and I could get/am choked up right now still just typing this. l... cant recap the good memories to or they are gone.

I was only trying to share what took that painful lump away. I've never been able to not cry when I think of them, that lump appears and the tears flow, changing my mood.

This relieved that lump and helped me just stay in the love moment vs moving into grief so I was just trying to share a tool in the box.
I think for me it is the holding in of that love. Just letting it out to them has at least diminished that horrible lump in the throat.
I've said all that can be said, sometimes just feeling such deep love for someone and not being able to shower them in it is painful.
This eased that so I thought it might help someone else