Accepting the shadow self

[Minyatur]

I really see it as two-way.

If you try to change the pattern without love then it won't work well as you are not pouring transformative energies within it.

If you appease the energy but don't seek to change the mental pattern, then the same charge will build up again.

The ways of learn/teaching as the Creator in realizing the Creator are quite profound and are hard to be put into words.

Loving is not appeasing - that's the interesting thing about it.  Focusing love on an inner critic/hateful part will make it scream like a vampire in the sunlight as it begins to break up and dissolve.  Maybe that's why Q'uo talks about "terrible Love".

I get what you mean but what you said in your initial post was closer to appeasing.

if your head hurts, you don't begin hating your head for it; instead you look for ways to soothe and comfort it, because it's a part of you that's in pain.  The voice you're hearing is simply another part of you that's in pain, and love is the medicine it needs.

By Love I simply mean kindness, compassion, caring.

Soothing it is an attempt to appease the energy in space/time, it helps to feel better momentarily but does not teach forgiveness in time/space either, and so further karma will be required to realize forgiveness in another nexus of a moment.

The time/space lesson is a bit more tricky to focus upon, but it is what attracts and manifests catalysts, and this does include traumas that may repeat over lifetimes and worlds. So what may seem to you like just a "silly" childhood trauma might very well be more like the XXXth time this soul pattern is repeated seeking the same realization. We really do incarnate way too many times sometimes just for a single angle within the strings of one's spirit.

Realizations need to come from within. Arguing, much like pouring love, is helpful only when it is sought. By pouring too much love into something you can literally break it down further, just like by arguing in wanting to share a truth you can create unconscious resistances within another to realize this truth. Love/wisdom, wisdom/love, love/wisdom, wisdom/love, love/wisdom, wisdom/love..... Do as you know and feel because that's your job within Unity! Do as you know and feel because that's already what you have ever been doing!