11-11-2017, 01:27 PM
You didnt share your perspective on your friends.
One is basically me that chose to take our catalyst through the path of anger and separation vs what was in my life the path through fear/saddness & love.
It has been my most difficult and transformative friendship. It has pushed me harder than any other to heal my wounds and seek only compassion and love. I honestly cannot be sure where his path will finish but my sense is his path with end up exactly where mine has(love/compassion) just later, hes exploring stuff I don't wish to see.
Another is pretty much my opposite energy- very calm, quiet, cool to luke warm where I am intense, warm to hot and interactive. No past trauma and lacked any ability to connect empathy wise, but still virtuous and kind from a place of quiet wisdom ..... another friend used to call him Dexter like the show about the killer, because he is so easy going but lacked any real emotion.
Thankful for his inherent kindness as he would have been a great killer otherwise. Nothing touched his heart. His kindness was intellectual/wisdom driven.
He even figured there was something wrong with him because nothing hurt him or bothered him, he couldnt feel anything....took 23 years but we have learned a lot from each other. Most I would say in the last 3, the first 20 laid the groundwork.
He has often held space while I healed, my process was painful and not pretty, my child/youth experience was gruesome and I lost other people who got to see it and didn't want to be conscious of that darkness. None of it phased him.... it actually couldn't phase him even when we were both quite concerned by this, and I could have used some empathy. lol 23 years and just in the last year he really has started to feel things. Maybe it took 23 years of exposure to my intense feeling to wake that up in him, and the 23 years of his wise patience and the gift of never taking my pain personally while I healed.
I might think of more but for now...
One is basically me that chose to take our catalyst through the path of anger and separation vs what was in my life the path through fear/saddness & love.
It has been my most difficult and transformative friendship. It has pushed me harder than any other to heal my wounds and seek only compassion and love. I honestly cannot be sure where his path will finish but my sense is his path with end up exactly where mine has(love/compassion) just later, hes exploring stuff I don't wish to see.
Another is pretty much my opposite energy- very calm, quiet, cool to luke warm where I am intense, warm to hot and interactive. No past trauma and lacked any ability to connect empathy wise, but still virtuous and kind from a place of quiet wisdom ..... another friend used to call him Dexter like the show about the killer, because he is so easy going but lacked any real emotion.
Thankful for his inherent kindness as he would have been a great killer otherwise. Nothing touched his heart. His kindness was intellectual/wisdom driven.
He even figured there was something wrong with him because nothing hurt him or bothered him, he couldnt feel anything....took 23 years but we have learned a lot from each other. Most I would say in the last 3, the first 20 laid the groundwork.
He has often held space while I healed, my process was painful and not pretty, my child/youth experience was gruesome and I lost other people who got to see it and didn't want to be conscious of that darkness. None of it phased him.... it actually couldn't phase him even when we were both quite concerned by this, and I could have used some empathy. lol 23 years and just in the last year he really has started to feel things. Maybe it took 23 years of exposure to my intense feeling to wake that up in him, and the 23 years of his wise patience and the gift of never taking my pain personally while I healed.
I might think of more but for now...
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