08-25-2017, 06:15 AM
(This post was last modified: 08-26-2017, 06:52 AM by ches.
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(08-25-2017, 03:33 AM)JayCee Wrote: Thank you all.
I am going back to the guilt issue, there is another aspect involved. I already told you about aunt and cousin now seeing me as the bad one.
I sometimes see my aunt, she lives not too far away from my place. The other day I saw her from the distance and made sure to take another way home, so not to confront her. She has a way of giving me the evil side eye.
I remember on one of the prayers in church after my mum had died she was sitting right in front of me. She turned around and saw me. I then felt like an amorphous grey cloud of negativity descending down and I knew it was from her, it was her thoughts / hatred towards me. I lifted myself up above this cloud and then it was better.
But it is creepy and I really avoid her. One part of me wishes I would never ever see her again.
On the other hand I am thinking why?
All that is her crap. I haven’t done anything wrong, on the contrary I gave her daughter a chance to work for us.
And aunts behavior is typical of shoot the messenger…
She does not want to see the truth about her daughter and about what happened so instead she hates me for spilling the beans.
But still, I just hope I don’t see her or have to meet her each time I walk close to her house “sighs”
I guess there has to be work done on the issue, forgiveness and acceptance as Glow said, and then maybe one day it won't matter to me anymore if I see her or not and if she gives me the evil eye or not....
This is the bridge I'm on as well, one that I thought I had transcended years ago but haven't lol. For example, when I had unconditional love for all, could see the creator in all, I wouldn't even need to "forgive" anyone, it was already forgiven and there was nothing to forgive, because I could see 'past' the petty human situations we get ourselves into and see all as souls. There was a higher-perspective involved. In any situation.. it was perfect and the only way to live any moment of doubt at that time, was "what would love do?"
What would love do now? What would my higher-self do? What is the most loving way to look at this situation? And when I lived in that realm, there was no finger-pointing necessary.. it was just life teaching me how to love more and to bring more love into the world around me - to be the ripple effect.
Then life brought me some catalysts to show "that's just not how it is" or "I still have work to do".. with my crash and so that's what I mean by the bridge. I'm no longer in that "what would love do space" (but when you're in it.. feel it, because you might get answers for yourself because there are still some situations where looking at "what love would do" is the right-conduct and most peaceful / ideal-outcome when faced with hostility) and it's how I want to eventually live my life again - but with more balance, discernment, and understanding.
So I can't really help when I'm trying to "get back into" the Law of One kind of philosophy (that's why I'm here at the moment, I only just recently joined myself).
From this space, of 2 years of shadow work.. meaning.. looking at my part in the play - looking at what this situation is teaching me about blockages/undealt with things in my own being. Is it me? Them? Both? What is my part? Are the negative feelings that are coming up... because of something undealt with in my own being? The only thing I could control/work on was.. what this was teaching me about myself. But now, after doing so much work on pointing the finger at myself.. I am starting to again wonder if there's even more to it, i.e. negative beings/energies, as well as the morality and ethics of "others" in the play, and how that relates to me, etc. So I'm broadening my scope because I feel the need to explore/expand further past what I have already done. That it's not just working on our self (which is a constant); that life is showing me there's more to it and I'm still getting a grasp of what I'm learning.
I have a similar catalyst to you at the moment. [Editing out catalyst info so that it's not on a public forum now that you've read it]
Anyway.. with your situation, I'm seeing how it relates to my own situation. There's "a thick air" when they are around, and all I can do is, be nice and try and stay off any topic that might make me "crack" and express everything that I've been trying to hold back. As you have already learnt, I do like to "share" and be understood and try and get clarity about everything heheh.
So I look at this catalyst from a standpoint of my previous lessons. From the unconditional love space of "what would love do?" and from the shadow-work space of (why is she able to trigger me, if I didn't have some 'guilt' or some negative thing within me.. to transcend and balance.. that she wouldn't be able to knock me off centre if I didn't have more self-work to do). And, recently, of the new "un-researched" perspective of negative energy. But I don't feel qualified to talk about that yet.
The LOO is helping me get back to a place of seeing all as the creator, but I am totally not there yet, I'm not seeing the benevolent side to the evil that I've witnessed. I watched a video earlier (an Ouija reading) that was all about how to discern good from evil and that has me contemplating as well. When you use "BUT" in any way - you are not living true to the creator's gifts.. according to the reading.. we are born with 2 gifts from the creator - the gift of love, and the gift of freedom of choice. We are born with the truth and then through our teachers / those who wish to teach us or "project their will" onto us, we learn to distort those gifts because we make choices that are not in alignment with our own truth/our own being because "we like them & want them to like us". I don't think I can explain it very well because I only just watched it and I'm still contemplating how it relates to my own discernment. The general message was that 'Evil intent' is that which would seek to silence our freedom of expression and that we are the ones with that power to give away our own freedom of expression by 'burying uncomfortable/unbearable/ugly' truths instead of living true to our freedom of expression. I don't know, I should shut up. Their message when we find ourselves doing this is relevant though, it is: Find your heart and you will see things with much more clarity.