Hate is always understandable yet it is never rightful outside that it is understandable, and so I think the balanced approach to hatred is to dive into the more vulnerable self to distill the unhealed wounds from which this hate springs. To cling to hate is to cling to be hurt in a manner that avoids touching the deeper wounds, might offer a sense that it feels better in the present moment but it simply prolongs one's hell until a harmonious perception is instead sought.
I can't really speak of the fate which has led you here upon this planet but to me it seems that what would make it most likely for you to not reincarnate is to succeed in distilling all this hate you feel and certainly not cling to it. We incarnate hoping for moments of transformations and one's life struggles speak of one's distortions and resistances to embodying/expressing awareness of unity and which are desired to be released by the Greater Self.
Release all your pain, it is freeing to be without it and only then may peace be found.
I can't really speak of the fate which has led you here upon this planet but to me it seems that what would make it most likely for you to not reincarnate is to succeed in distilling all this hate you feel and certainly not cling to it. We incarnate hoping for moments of transformations and one's life struggles speak of one's distortions and resistances to embodying/expressing awareness of unity and which are desired to be released by the Greater Self.
Release all your pain, it is freeing to be without it and only then may peace be found.