05-22-2017, 11:38 AM
Seriously, CA: meditate. Meditation doesn't require you to change one iota of your situation otherwise. You need take no other risk or put yourself in any sort of additional jeopardy.
Don't you think that if you could achieve a level of calmness, awareness, and clarity that even when you're faced with difficult situations you'd at least respond better? And not simply respond better but understand better how you fit into the situation, how exactly you contribute to it, how exactly you are don't contribute to it?
Nobody in this thread, I imagine, has any hope of telling you the one thing that makes all of this better. You and we both know that you are going to have to figure this out. Why not get to know your own resources better? There's no doubt that you're intelligent, but you clearly feel like your'e stuck in troubling patterns. Why not get to know those better, before you decide how to move forward?
We don't know you well enough to really give you exactly what you need. But you can figure out on your own how to proceed by knowing yourself better, and not in this abstract way we describe but in a direct way. Avail yourself of your own resources through studying yourself, which is all meditation really is in the end. Find out for yourself what the solution is; don't take our word for it.
I don't mean any of that as a criticism of you. You can learn a lot by continuing down your current path, too. When you're ready for it, know that you have other options on how to pursue this matter.
Don't you think that if you could achieve a level of calmness, awareness, and clarity that even when you're faced with difficult situations you'd at least respond better? And not simply respond better but understand better how you fit into the situation, how exactly you contribute to it, how exactly you are don't contribute to it?
Nobody in this thread, I imagine, has any hope of telling you the one thing that makes all of this better. You and we both know that you are going to have to figure this out. Why not get to know your own resources better? There's no doubt that you're intelligent, but you clearly feel like your'e stuck in troubling patterns. Why not get to know those better, before you decide how to move forward?
We don't know you well enough to really give you exactly what you need. But you can figure out on your own how to proceed by knowing yourself better, and not in this abstract way we describe but in a direct way. Avail yourself of your own resources through studying yourself, which is all meditation really is in the end. Find out for yourself what the solution is; don't take our word for it.
I don't mean any of that as a criticism of you. You can learn a lot by continuing down your current path, too. When you're ready for it, know that you have other options on how to pursue this matter.