On the puke/cry thing you asked how we kept doing it.
First... what was the alternative? There really isn't one. I used to talk myself forward one foot in front of the other just keep going. Even now I rationalize and say Ive done this a decade I can do that 2 more times(20 years) just to encourage the one foot in front of the other attitude.
The embarrassing part for me was I was running my own business and sometimes I'd be crying/dry heaving right up till I got out of my vehicle at my clients. Here I was supposed to be confident and professional and I'm pretty sure my eyes were always puffy and red.
I think it really helped me when I admitted it to another business owner and she admitted she was like that the first 7 years of her business.
I thought "Well crap I guess I'm not doomed" because I knew she was pretty skilled and we both 9 years later are still running our businesses. Much less puking and tears. lol
Not contributing isn't exactly good for the mental health or ego, even if you don't think it effects your self esteem when you start accomplishing things that overwhelm you it builds you up.
Fear paralyzes but the fear isn't generally an accurate estimate of how things will go. Trust yourself. It effects me too but when I actually accomplish what scares me its a good feeling.
Courage is being scared but doing it anyways, not the absence of fear.
If you have one friend it can be a life line to get you through. Like Jade I had crap parental providers as a kid. I had a job by 8, and by 11 I was being charged for fuel if I wanted a ride anywhere. lol They actually made money when the drove me places as gas did not cost much 29 years ago. It makes me laugh in retrospect. I was paying $600 a month rent to my mother at age 18, and had to buy my own groceries, all her 3 kids did. Now knowing how money works I know her kids paid her mortgage but whatever. Life isn't free and I guess I found that out early.
Bosses are not your friends and you cannot expect corporations to treat you or their customers with integrity. Wired like we are in the short term you suck it up and in the long term you build a business so you can treat your clients with care and only work for people you can respect and show respect too. I'm 9 years in and have fired the last of my negative energy clients. It sucked getting here I admit but what was the alternative. Two feet and a heart beat, one foot in front of the other.
You aren't alone vent here and just make it through the day out there.
First... what was the alternative? There really isn't one. I used to talk myself forward one foot in front of the other just keep going. Even now I rationalize and say Ive done this a decade I can do that 2 more times(20 years) just to encourage the one foot in front of the other attitude.
The embarrassing part for me was I was running my own business and sometimes I'd be crying/dry heaving right up till I got out of my vehicle at my clients. Here I was supposed to be confident and professional and I'm pretty sure my eyes were always puffy and red.
I think it really helped me when I admitted it to another business owner and she admitted she was like that the first 7 years of her business.
I thought "Well crap I guess I'm not doomed" because I knew she was pretty skilled and we both 9 years later are still running our businesses. Much less puking and tears. lol
Not contributing isn't exactly good for the mental health or ego, even if you don't think it effects your self esteem when you start accomplishing things that overwhelm you it builds you up.
Fear paralyzes but the fear isn't generally an accurate estimate of how things will go. Trust yourself. It effects me too but when I actually accomplish what scares me its a good feeling.
Courage is being scared but doing it anyways, not the absence of fear.
If you have one friend it can be a life line to get you through. Like Jade I had crap parental providers as a kid. I had a job by 8, and by 11 I was being charged for fuel if I wanted a ride anywhere. lol They actually made money when the drove me places as gas did not cost much 29 years ago. It makes me laugh in retrospect. I was paying $600 a month rent to my mother at age 18, and had to buy my own groceries, all her 3 kids did. Now knowing how money works I know her kids paid her mortgage but whatever. Life isn't free and I guess I found that out early.
Bosses are not your friends and you cannot expect corporations to treat you or their customers with integrity. Wired like we are in the short term you suck it up and in the long term you build a business so you can treat your clients with care and only work for people you can respect and show respect too. I'm 9 years in and have fired the last of my negative energy clients. It sucked getting here I admit but what was the alternative. Two feet and a heart beat, one foot in front of the other.
You aren't alone vent here and just make it through the day out there.
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