05-03-2017, 11:56 AM
I don't think there is a blockage on your part; I think it's more of a boundary issue. Being honest is loving.
The way I deal with this is to allot time to this service. I realize it sounds very segmented and mechanical, but unless you separate things, it's too messy and chaotic, and boundary-less.
Setting boundaries and making considered decisions on how much, or in what ways, to offer this service alleviates the frustration and sense of violation. You just have to stick to your decisions, or refine them when things get out of hand. Just going with the flow of others' demands or needs is not being openhearted—it's being victimized (though I don't mean that in a derogatory fashion). Being honest and forthright is a service in itself, and if you can do that you will not feel violated.
The way I deal with this is to allot time to this service. I realize it sounds very segmented and mechanical, but unless you separate things, it's too messy and chaotic, and boundary-less.
Setting boundaries and making considered decisions on how much, or in what ways, to offer this service alleviates the frustration and sense of violation. You just have to stick to your decisions, or refine them when things get out of hand. Just going with the flow of others' demands or needs is not being openhearted—it's being victimized (though I don't mean that in a derogatory fashion). Being honest and forthright is a service in itself, and if you can do that you will not feel violated.
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