Seeing the creator when you look at an attacker

[Coordinate_Apotheosis]

One can see the creator in another, love them for their being, and still defend the self from their assault.

I'm sure specific instances exist where one is powerless to do anything but succumb to an assault, those instances it seems fair to see the killer or abuser as creator, and try to love through the fear and pain.

Then other more open instances where more choices and options are available, it seems that to protect the self isn't an infringement of the other attacking you, but rather an assertion of choice vs choice, creator vs creator, both lose and win no matter the circumstance because loss and winning isn't more than an illusion.

A good question to contemplate next to this one.

How does an attacker see their victim as creator?

That mosquito you killed, the ant you stepped on.  The animal you are eating.  The tea leaves you are drinking.  How does one find love of self and other as creator while assaulting another?

How does the attacker in self defense love that whom they are not only defending against but also attacking?