03-23-2017, 11:20 AM
(03-23-2017, 04:40 AM)Agua del Cielo Wrote: ...
This would mean, you are aware that you are actually dealing with a child or even a baby in a severe situation.
Probably the "child"will be very young. Most of these severe blockages and feelings originate or develop in the very first year.
...etc. (see post above)
I can attest the truth of this, in my experience, both with myself and others.
In John Bradshaw's work, he advises at one point to look at your behaviors, and identify any behaviors that might not seem age-appropriate. It didn't take me long to identify something I did, which was anomalous and irrational—I had a habit of "pouting" and this was accompanied by not being articulate. I would often say, "I don't feel good," which, besides being grammatically incorrect, which I normally don't do, was a vague statement that could mean absolutely anything in the circumstances the "pouting" occurred.
Bradshaw then says to identify at what age the anomalous behavior WOULD be age-appropriate. Here, then, you have a clue to when you were traumatized and perhaps even what is being triggered. In my case, I figured that age 4 was when children pout.
There is one exercise I recall that Bradshaw recommends regarding this identification. He suggests you write a letter as your child self (at the age you have identified with the inappropriate behavior for an adult—in my case this would be me at age 4), but you write the letter with your non-dominant hand. Whatever you write is fine. Maybe you write to your parents or about your feelings, whatever comes up. You write a second letter as an adult with your normal dominant hand in answer to the child's letter; and here you can console the inner child, give them the love they did not receive or nurturing they needed.
This is a way to reach and work with those triggered subconscious parts of self that have been fragmented, and are continuing to trigger now. I do recommend Bradshaw's books. I can't recall which one this exercise came from (I keep lending out my copies of his books) but it might be "Homecoming," or "Healing the Shame that Binds You."
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