"Negative Philosophies...encourage or promote control of self...."

[Night Owl]

I have experienced many time a situation where my desires and those of other selves conflicted in opposition. In such situation I usually see no problem in giving up my desires as long the other selves do not impose their desires on me. Yet it seems like it's been recurrent I would find myself very confused as to which would be the positive and harmonious choice when the other selves still push on me for their desires to manifest even though I have given up mine and the recurrent theme seems to be that I found myself unacceptable in their parameters. Not only unacceptable but profoundly being troubled by being within their desires. I still haven't figured out the proper way to deal with it but my natural reaction is so far to simply give up the entire situation in which I have found myself bound by these other selves even if that decision made me in a situation where I would be perceived as the antagonist among a group. I have come to accept the situation and all but still don't see how I could have made everyone happy in such a situation. Maybe there isn't and it is the nature of conflicting desires to find someone will somewhat ''lose''. I just prefer to lose and give up than being used for purposes I do not support. I'm still not sure what to think of it.