03-15-2017, 03:51 AM
Not sure i completely understand you,
i'd offer my thoughts thoughts on this.
I would say, there are different Levels of Self-control.
If you try to control your outer life to a high degree, this could well indicate you try to avoid catalyst, or rather your try to control what would arise as a reaction in you.
An example would be all the "The Secret" stuff (not as a basic principle but how it's commonly practiced). It seems that many try to control how their life unfolds, instead of dealing with what arises.
The result would be a seperation from self.
You would rob yourself of the opportunity to get to know yourself more deeply and instead Chose to control.
Another Level would be, you highly control your emotions, in the sense of suppressing what is Insider of you, usually suppressing emotions, by various control means.
That could be intellectual control, avoidance of certain situations, avoidance of relationships.
What would be the Core here, is control of emotions, in the sense of not allowing oneself to feel them.
(i would say however, although this is ultimately "polarizing negatively", it is also a necessity, als Long als the entity is stable and "strong" enough to Face this.)
Behaviour patterns like this most likely also lead to (unconsciously) Control of others.
An example would be, youre talking with someone who is about to display deeper emotions (which in that case you dont want to face), the reaction could be making a (seemingly) joking comment or responding in a highly intellectual way and thus kind of "killing" the emotional atmosphere.
I was especially skilled in this until i was thirty
The means to be controlling in relationships are endless, and i think everybody dös this to a degree, but it's ultimately connected to what i wrote above, one does not want to face unpleasant emotions.
This kind of control usually is completely invisible to oneself.
There is also a "positive" kind of control, this would be feeling an intense negative emotion, like anger, but experiencing it consciously and consciously choosing to not act it out.
Being really angry but choosing to not Beat someone up, in simpler words.
This is my view of the control/ self-control subject.
i'd offer my thoughts thoughts on this.
I would say, there are different Levels of Self-control.
If you try to control your outer life to a high degree, this could well indicate you try to avoid catalyst, or rather your try to control what would arise as a reaction in you.
An example would be all the "The Secret" stuff (not as a basic principle but how it's commonly practiced). It seems that many try to control how their life unfolds, instead of dealing with what arises.
The result would be a seperation from self.
You would rob yourself of the opportunity to get to know yourself more deeply and instead Chose to control.
Another Level would be, you highly control your emotions, in the sense of suppressing what is Insider of you, usually suppressing emotions, by various control means.
That could be intellectual control, avoidance of certain situations, avoidance of relationships.
What would be the Core here, is control of emotions, in the sense of not allowing oneself to feel them.
(i would say however, although this is ultimately "polarizing negatively", it is also a necessity, als Long als the entity is stable and "strong" enough to Face this.)
Behaviour patterns like this most likely also lead to (unconsciously) Control of others.
An example would be, youre talking with someone who is about to display deeper emotions (which in that case you dont want to face), the reaction could be making a (seemingly) joking comment or responding in a highly intellectual way and thus kind of "killing" the emotional atmosphere.
I was especially skilled in this until i was thirty
The means to be controlling in relationships are endless, and i think everybody dös this to a degree, but it's ultimately connected to what i wrote above, one does not want to face unpleasant emotions.
This kind of control usually is completely invisible to oneself.
There is also a "positive" kind of control, this would be feeling an intense negative emotion, like anger, but experiencing it consciously and consciously choosing to not act it out.
Being really angry but choosing to not Beat someone up, in simpler words.
This is my view of the control/ self-control subject.