02-08-2017, 06:50 AM
I experienced this "stalled progress" and the dissatisfaction many times.
I have come to some observations that now help me a lot in these times:
- its a phase where i need to develop more stability, need to remove emotional residue, develop trust in life and the humans surrounding me, because the next step will most probably a challenging one, where i need as much of a firm base as possible.
This is for example an important stage in therapy, nothing big seems to happen on the outside, but inside trust and the feeling of being safe is developing.
I usually realize the importamce of this, when the new challenge surfaces, more often than not its very challenging and then i realize i wouldnt have been able to deal with it, without the "grounding work", the trust and stability i developed.
Until i reach this point i usually become quite impatient and dissatisfied
-there is something i refuse to look at.
Sometimes i tealize after a while, that there is a blind spot that i refused to look at. Something where i would be unwilling to acknowledge being unconscious, usually because there is heavy self-judgement.
- there is a fear of moving forward. The fear would not be perceivable, but obviously it has to be there somewhere.
Usually this unconscious fear would be fear of the ( unknown at this time) emotions that are about to arise. These would be so challenging that my control system would be working over-hours.
When finally these emotions arise at some point, i completely understand, why i was so controlling.
I regularly practice breathing techniques, these usually help to blow through.
Dreams as mentioned before are also an obvious tool.
When i get stuck, i'll use whatever method i have at hands, intensifying my spiritual practice.
But i think, its important to acknowledge that there would be a (hidden, but when experienced absolutely understandable) reason for the perceived "stalled progress".
Compassion for the self which is afraid, struggling and fearful has proven very helpful for me.
It might help to view ourselves as little child in an overwhelming situation, since mostly this would be the root of it anyway. Understanding and compassion might be easier then.
I have come to some observations that now help me a lot in these times:
- its a phase where i need to develop more stability, need to remove emotional residue, develop trust in life and the humans surrounding me, because the next step will most probably a challenging one, where i need as much of a firm base as possible.
This is for example an important stage in therapy, nothing big seems to happen on the outside, but inside trust and the feeling of being safe is developing.
I usually realize the importamce of this, when the new challenge surfaces, more often than not its very challenging and then i realize i wouldnt have been able to deal with it, without the "grounding work", the trust and stability i developed.
Until i reach this point i usually become quite impatient and dissatisfied

-there is something i refuse to look at.
Sometimes i tealize after a while, that there is a blind spot that i refused to look at. Something where i would be unwilling to acknowledge being unconscious, usually because there is heavy self-judgement.
- there is a fear of moving forward. The fear would not be perceivable, but obviously it has to be there somewhere.
Usually this unconscious fear would be fear of the ( unknown at this time) emotions that are about to arise. These would be so challenging that my control system would be working over-hours.
When finally these emotions arise at some point, i completely understand, why i was so controlling.
I regularly practice breathing techniques, these usually help to blow through.
Dreams as mentioned before are also an obvious tool.
When i get stuck, i'll use whatever method i have at hands, intensifying my spiritual practice.
But i think, its important to acknowledge that there would be a (hidden, but when experienced absolutely understandable) reason for the perceived "stalled progress".
Compassion for the self which is afraid, struggling and fearful has proven very helpful for me.
It might help to view ourselves as little child in an overwhelming situation, since mostly this would be the root of it anyway. Understanding and compassion might be easier then.