"Flicking a switch" / negative?

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I wouldn't say that emotional control -by itself- is an indication of negativity. It can also mean not getting angry in a situation where one knows anger will be harmful, or not being afraid in situations where fear will only make things worse. But being able to control one's level of love\compassion does usually come part-and-parcel with such abilities. Since all emotions are "distortions" of more underlying energetic impulses, control over how those impulses express themselves is going to affect the entire spectrum, so to speak.

First there's the love/light, which is distorted into what one might call "pure" emotion, which is then in turn distorted into a specific expression of emotion like hate or love. It's like light through a crystal. Learn to turn the crystal, and the refraction patterns change.

If anything, I'd tend to think those who have such self-control are simply strong in blue-ray, which can be either polarity.

Besides, if we're talking about folks like sociopaths or psychopaths -who would be textbook negative types- it's really the exact opposite. They don't care as their natural state, but can put on a mask that makes it appear they do. I don't think it's likely one would use the "flip the switch" metaphor unless they were either very confused about their true nature, or lying.

Either way, I really wouldn't suggest you let it worry you. I'm pretty sure it's just one of those "different people have different ways" things.

Hit a few nails on the head. All 3 I've noticed are compulsive lyers. 2 I tried friendships with but felt like I was being manipulated nonstop so I learned to keep them at arms length.

The 3rd recently told me he "Doesn't even know who he is" so is certainly confused.
I have a tonne of compassion for him. Won't shut my heart off to him.

Interesting about blue ray. I'm going to have to think about that.

I get the controlling emotion thing regarding anger. I guess the difference is I have learned not to be angry, felt a tiny bit last week but generally compassion and understanding make anger a near impossibility. Fear ... I still get scared but not as much, surrender/trust helps that(balancing)

But what would negate love and compassion?

Anyways you are correct it's just different strokes, but I'm being guided pretty strongly right now about watching for red flags and setting boundaries. It seems this odd sentence being said to me 3 times in two years might be trying to show me a lesson.

I tend to just love people, some people lie and I perhaps give them more of my heart than is safe. I wonder if I'm supposed to see the signs and not so easily let them get close, or that I'm supposed to keep letting people close but be ready and ok enough to not be hurt when they shut their heart off.

This is all theoretical, only one got really close to me and he's still trying to be close but at one point he shut his heart off(tried anyways) It sucked!

I think I'm supposed to learn from this and see the people who do this are attracted to my life (must be something I'm drawing in) so I don't get hurt like that again.
Just not clear how I'm supposed to do that:
1. let them in but be enough within myself that what they need to do doesn't hurt me
2. just keep them from having full access to my heart.
Always a new puzzle.

Thank you so much for you thoughts