Loving someone more than you love yourself

[Nowheretoday]

As time passes I'm able to be an observer of the situation and a possible answer becomes clear.
I was not loving this person by accepting over and over again what was being given, mistreatment, lies, disrespect, etc., I was not loving myself and being honest with myself by accepting these things that in any other setting I would not, why? Fear, fear of losing the good things about this person. I tried to explain that this behavior was not okay, I tried to leave, I tried to make aware, but change and growth never came, was I hindering evolution by the accepting of disharmony? I do want better for this person but I only have power over my will. I don't think there's love by staying in an unhealthy environment where change and growth never occurs. I don't think there's love where you're not being true to your values. Everyone of us is broken and I'm all about accepting this and growing together but not remaining in a rut.