Loving someone more than you love yourself

[Agua del Cielo]

Thanks, facettes, for these quotes!

I found however, that letting go is not always possible and maybe not even advisable.
In intimate relationships you would be (subconsciously) mostly be faced with childhood issues.
This would mean that actually (although its usually not on a conscious level) the active part of one is not the adult but the child or baby.
So the letting go thing would be, as if you told a baby that is being neglected or abandoned "you should let go", in the baby's case this would have physical death as a result, cause your survival would (at least from your point of view) be dependant on your mother's love.

Additionally, a 'letting go' in a situation as above would most likely not be a letting go but a closing of the heart and a denial and suppression of the emotions.since this (very understandable) tendency is in many many cases the reason why people would (unconsciously) avoid and not allow deep intimate relationships or any intimate relationship at all, many times one has to learn to hold on to a person or relationship before one should learn to let go.
The holding would make you face these emotions, so you can 1) release them at least to adegree and 2)once you experienced (and survived) them consciously, the unconscious fear of them and the resulting avoiding of (deep) relationships might be greatly reduced by that.