Judgment towards others

[Aion]

So, essentially to eradicate judgment of another would require a lessening of the contrast between self and other by means of forgiveness, balancing and healing of the self? Sort of breaking down of a strong attachment to the identity of self, which would break down the seeming disparity between self and other?

Judgement as comparison is like a ratio of equality between the many aspects of the self. The judgement is not to be discarded by instead seen as a microcosm/macrocosm relationship between the self and the other that is a reflection of the internal workings of the individual. In otherwords your judgements are actually you comparing different parts of yourself using the other as a mirror or medium.

In that, the other serves to either reinforce or dissolve your judgements by reflection. The judgement then is to be discerned, as in, what is it in itself exactly?

Choice is where it becomes truly relevant because to 'have judgement' is to be capable of making a choice. With no judgement there is no discernment and thus all choices are then impulsive. The question then, is where is one trying to go with their choices? Judgement will change based on the answer to this question because judgement will separate that which is desired from that which is not.

I do not think it is useful to cease judgement but rather to view it as part of the vehicle of the 'ego' or personality. There is 'unfair' judgement as well as 'good' judgement as well as 'foolish' judgement. Many different ways to discern and perceive. Choose your measure of reality and by the measurement it shall be craft.

What would be the mechanisms that would cause one to either reinforce or dissolve their judgments. Would that be the choice you are talking about? obviously if one is comfortable with their judgements and believe in them, it would be easy enough to go the route of reinforcing those beliefs, but what choice would one make if they want to dissolve them? very generally, firstly to recognize the those parts of yourself that are being reflected, and to discover how they are distorting your inner processes, and then turn that judgement into acceptance in some way towards yourself?

The most unbiased state of judgement is that of acceptance because it is a reception of that which is. Judgement that is skewed is perceiving things as according to a rejection, which we often see called 'projection', and it can be any degree of mixing between 'what is' and 'what you think'. This in essence is when there is perceived a difference between the self and other self and so that 'space' becomes filled with catalyst. When that difference is no longer seen the catalyst has been used.

I think that most people approach this in an exclusive sort of way whereby they feel they need to 'match up' with others in order to identify with them, but I think more of an inclusive method can be effective where instead you find the traits within yourself that you see in others.

So, this is where the balancing exercises come in to play because they are essentially expanding and refinishing the very personality you express in the world, so thereby, in my opinion, if you use it correctly you will eventually find you yourself contain every possible trait and instead are choosing between those traits, perhaps only impulsively. However, those same traits are the same traits that make up everyone else, there are archetypes from which all personality draws, so you see then that the differences are fewer in that which you are and the difference only lies within the choice.

The choice is what most people judge eachother for because one's choices are the illustration of one's character but I think it is also that once we make a choice we have developed some judgement towards other choices we could have made and so we will see these unmade choices reflected in the people we encounter and will remind us of the potential for other choices and thus become repulsed or attracted by the very idea of making that choice.

In short, when people are repulsed by the choices of others and so have a skewed judgement I think it is usually because they do not feel they would ever make that choice and have thereby rejected that potential for themselves internally, which causes energy to be locked up as a blockage because of the inability to accept the possibility of oneself making choices one does not want to make.

Thus to see in yourself every choice and to accept the power to choose is freeing but is also the responsibility of creativity.

Compassion is very useful in that it is easier to examine yourself with a gentle eye, however the fine tuning of wisdom requires an eye that is sharp.