Social behaviours.

[Infinite Unity]

At any rate, the relevance here (as I see it) is that while there is a mild "controlling" factor that accompanies any bit of banter, even something as simple as "Nice weather we're having, huh?" most conversations are simply a means of sharing and building energy between two "like-minded" entities.   It is (among positive-leaning entities) a method of sharing love\light via yellow ray processes, but there's also still a block there, in that the conversation could be a much more efficient energy-exchange mechanism without having to go through the yellow-ray conversion.

I've been working a lot with this insight: for me, social interactions with others tend to be very deliberate and conscious.  I sometimes envy the free and easy way others have, not with those of like mind, but with anybody.  It's getting better as I accept myself more deeply, little by little by little.

I think for folks who have desired to have deeper connections with others, a lot of the "banter" seems like a barrier to that.  You make small talk precisely because you don't want to know me, it seems like.  It took me a long, long time to realize that certain socially-intelligent people can share the energy so easily that it really does not matter which words act as the carrier wave.  There are sub-densities of conversations, I guess.

That said, I think some socially intelligent folks have just the same propensity to not be completely honest with themselves as anybody else about which energies they are exchanging.  So it takes a lot of self knowledge to, if you will, tune the conversation with accuracy rather than simply using it as a vehicle for mirroring whatever issues you're going through.  We've all had experiences of pleasant chit chat, but I'm sure we've also had experiences where banter became a way of probing us, a kind of scan of our usefulness to another.  If you've ever been to a business networking event, you know exactly what I'm talking about.  

In my own small awareness of infinity, both apeacefulwarrirors viewpoint, and yours jeremy6d is both correct. I have had multiple times where other individuals have benevolently used banter to open up a means of common ground. However on the contrary, I have often encountered the individual that used banter as a barrier. As soon as I would engage the conversation on a deeper level, they would basically retreat. In multiple manners. I assume, and superimpose that some individuals banter is depth of being they presently have delved to. Not to say the individual could not, or would not be able to delve deeper. They at that/or now nexus they were this shallow in a sense. Many people are scared of the deeper being, like a child is afraid of the dark. I understand this to be apart of the total experience of the creator, at any given level. If we all started seeking and came awake in once instant, I believe we would hit a "critical mass" type event and the whole illusion of Earth would collapse. That is not the work I believe we are here to do. We are here to help the ones reaching, the ones time it is to rise. To the others we sustain there hope. We keep the wolves at bay, as the wolves serve there purpose of having something to keep at bay. The people you feel so bad for being "asleep". Dont, you be jealous they serve the creator. To me the Creator is a pioneer/explorer/creator\explorer\pioneer (<--means nothing just for fun) So these people asleep, are living the dream baby! We the awakened are aware of the awareness of more. Not the sleep. SO you are the child that knows the milk/bottle exist and reaches and reaches for it. You are the one in struggle, spiritual struggle. That is ok, you will struggle and struggle until the hubris dies, and the christ is reborn. This is the way.