Social behaviours.

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I get the yellow ray block idea Nicholas puts forth. It's a social interaction based on acceptance but only partial because it's always done mockingly. So it's not quite exceptance which would makes it like there is a hesitance or keeping at arms length kind of acceptance.

Aion I also understand your blue ray idea I guess the reason behind the incomplete communication would determine where the block is or if it's both yellow and blue.

I noticed this week when a friend was antagonizing a person who was being a jerk to everyone(including children) that a lot of the "banter" (light hearted teasing) is the exact same phrases one would say to someone you actually don't like only said to those you do...

In the situation this week my friend said something he's said to people he cared about in other situations (hike up your skirt, usually said to jokingly cheer up a friend who needs encouragment to get over something and participate) anyways when he said the exact thing to a nonfriend its meaning was totally different and it ended up in an actual physical altercation.

I'm not a banterer, I see the humour now, I think it is or at least was a guy thing because guys were not historically encouraged to be emotionally connected so being connected that way through teasing allowed some love(oh dang now I see it Nicholas) to be broadcast without broaching taboo social ideas of men not emotionally connecting.

Not being racist but I first experienced banter was with my mother in law who is British. I almost didn't marry my husband because I couldn't get past the constant teasing which I didnt understand was a form of playful relating. I still don't banter but I realize in his family it was part of the stiff upper lip British thing, much like men, for a long time emotional interactions were not part of polite British social interaction so this banter thing seems very popular.

Hope that didn't offend anyone but I find the origins interesting. I've watch a lot of British comedy and always find the banter endearing. Its certainly interesting behavior but a stumbling block for me to be sure of someone's true communication. Double speak, well it's unclear. I like clarity.