Social behaviours.

[rva_jeremy]

At any rate, the relevance here (as I see it) is that while there is a mild "controlling" factor that accompanies any bit of banter, even something as simple as "Nice weather we're having, huh?" most conversations are simply a means of sharing and building energy between two "like-minded" entities.   It is (among positive-leaning entities) a method of sharing love\light via yellow ray processes, but there's also still a block there, in that the conversation could be a much more efficient energy-exchange mechanism without having to go through the yellow-ray conversion.

I've been working a lot with this insight: for me, social interactions with others tend to be very deliberate and conscious.  I sometimes envy the free and easy way others have, not with those of like mind, but with anybody.  It's getting better as I accept myself more deeply, little by little by little.

I think for folks who have desired to have deeper connections with others, a lot of the "banter" seems like a barrier to that.  You make small talk precisely because you don't want to know me, it seems like.  It took me a long, long time to realize that certain socially-intelligent people can share the energy so easily that it really does not matter which words act as the carrier wave.  There are sub-densities of conversations, I guess.

That said, I think some socially intelligent folks have just the same propensity to not be completely honest with themselves as anybody else about which energies they are exchanging.  So it takes a lot of self knowledge to, if you will, tune the conversation with accuracy rather than simply using it as a vehicle for mirroring whatever issues you're going through.  We've all had experiences of pleasant chit chat, but I'm sure we've also had experiences where banter became a way of probing us, a kind of scan of our usefulness to another.  If you've ever been to a business networking event, you know exactly what I'm talking about.