Balancing Positive/Negative charges with their equal

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How would one balance the emotional charge of missing someone. More accurately loss of unity consciousness.
I guess this is the one I still struggle with. A fellow soulgroup member started to awaken then went back to sleep.

If I read you correctly, this is loneliness, right?  That's what sticks out to me, and I too have struggled with this feeling.  

I would advise intensifying and truly experiencing this loneliness directly and without flinching, paying attention to the way the mind free associates and noticing where the energy is blocked/sore/hurting.  Really feel it in its most urgent and intense form.  

The question I've struggled with is how one balances that, since the condition seems dependent on an outward situation.  You're lonely because this connection is missing, and you can't simply balance it by unilaterally establishing the connection, since that's dependent on another person with free will.  So how do we balance when emotions seem tied to external stimuli outside our direct control?

To get started on balancing like this, I sometimes think of narratives or ideas that manifest these emotions.  The imagination is essentially constructing scenarios which act as "scaffolding" for the emotion, but these imaginings don't have to really make sense -- only enough sense to be plausible enough to have the emotion felt. Just like scaffolding, they are a means to an end, and as such, disposable once the emotional resonance is obtained.  In essence these are ways of using imagination to form discrete symbols of the emotion, but what matters is the emotion, not the symbol or surface thoughts themselves. In fact, sometimes I think this is what many daydreams and errant long-running thoughts are: ways of experiencing emotions that material reality is not otherwise giving us an opportunity to experience by setting up a mental hypothetical.

To summarize: the extreme of loneliness is abject isolation, and the extreme antithesis of isolation is the feeling of being fully accepted.  When I feel this way, I try to intensify the loneliness and then intensify the feeling of complete acceptance and understanding by all.  To the extent I am doing this well (fervently, sincerely, with total vulnerability and honesty) I find that the loneliness becomes more workable because the random energies around it are used up, and what I'm left with is a lesson rather than a wound.

I hope this helps, I'm just a beginner so I'm enjoying everybody's advice.  Sorry if I didn't read your ask correctly.

Thanks Jeremy great post. I will read it a few more times and might have a question or two for you if you don't mind just so I'm sure I'm getting it.