08-05-2016, 09:14 AM
Indigo I know what you mean. I've had similar fantasies. I wouldn't judge yourself.
It is simply apart of learning, than can be known and understood and I think more balanced. It's difficult to speak about because I go by feeling and intuition.
I don't deny or ignore fantasy, but let them be expressed and known. And, the unwholesome fantasies will fall away as light is shined on them. This is what I've discovered so far.
We end up judging ourselves and thinking "this is bad, I can't be the spiritual person I want to be."
But we are also human males. So it's not a matter of being less spiritual, it's a matter of being human.
Ask "what is my lesson here, what I am seeking to learn about myself?" During meditation, and see if an answer comes to you. I've been doing this because there is a confusing cyclical theme that is recurring and each time it comes around (a certain characteristic of sexuality that is apart of my dark side) I learn a little bit more.
One last thing, masturbation could even simply be by habit. We are creatures of habit, so if this is the case pay attention to what you really feel. Because there are times when I habitually feel like masturbating but then I realize that I don't really want to.
I've said a lot, lol. But this is a question I've asked myself and sought understanding.
It is simply apart of learning, than can be known and understood and I think more balanced. It's difficult to speak about because I go by feeling and intuition.
I don't deny or ignore fantasy, but let them be expressed and known. And, the unwholesome fantasies will fall away as light is shined on them. This is what I've discovered so far.
We end up judging ourselves and thinking "this is bad, I can't be the spiritual person I want to be."
But we are also human males. So it's not a matter of being less spiritual, it's a matter of being human.
Ask "what is my lesson here, what I am seeking to learn about myself?" During meditation, and see if an answer comes to you. I've been doing this because there is a confusing cyclical theme that is recurring and each time it comes around (a certain characteristic of sexuality that is apart of my dark side) I learn a little bit more.
One last thing, masturbation could even simply be by habit. We are creatures of habit, so if this is the case pay attention to what you really feel. Because there are times when I habitually feel like masturbating but then I realize that I don't really want to.
I've said a lot, lol. But this is a question I've asked myself and sought understanding.
