(05-15-2016, 05:27 PM)JustLikeYou Wrote: Minyatur, are you/have you ever been in a harmonious long-term romantic relationship? The concept of courtship is thoroughly dependent on this kind of experience which, while very common, is not perfectly ubiquitous. If not, then the concept would obviously be alien to you. Even so, there are surely other experiences you have had that are analogous to romantic courtship.
I have had one, although it was not always harmonious and more like a roller-coaster. I don't think I was much the element of disharmony though.
The relationship did require courting, which may be why it was not meant to be. To me, someone who would truly love me would not require to be courted. That relationship was also something I had an irrational fear of it ending, and would make me try to do my utmost into preventing that from happening, which was not all that respectful toward myself.
(05-15-2016, 05:27 PM)JustLikeYou Wrote: The central idea is that you and the other-self freely choose each other in a gradual, unforced relationship. Some have this experience with pets, others with friend or working partners, others with a job or career path, and still others have such an experience with an "inanimate" object (one of my favorite examples of such an object is a musical instrument). I remain confident that your objection (and Night Owl's) to Jade's description of the Transformation of the Mind (and the High Priestess) is largely a disagreement about what it means to court a maiden.
Well I did say I saw the archetype as a polarized relationship. I don't think courting ever is required, sometimes all that is needed is to make what truly resonates with you aware of yourself. That is more what I seek, someone who I would only need to be aware of to love and who would also only need to be aware of me to love me.
This is also how I see the High Priestess, as something that only truly desire me to be aware of her and to not ignore her existence.