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[Jade]

To me, in this situation, calling the cops is an infringement, because it is a fear-based, self-preservation action, and your friend already requested for you to leave it under their control. But that's just my opinion and my own interpretation of the events.

Why is it an infringement if you don't desire to engage in violence? To do so is not necessarily based on self-preservation; it can be based on the concept of "no harm" to anyone. If the attackers need this catalyst, we don't have to be involved. And it doesn't have to derive from fear; it can derive from love. Love of all life and respect for all beings including self.

If the friend said to run with the tone that he/she wanted this fight, then my best guess is that I would back away but not leave the friend alone. If the friend said this only to protect me, I would do something else.

I guess our differences lie in how we interpreted the set up the the scenario. It sounds more like a consensus scrap and less like a random assault. I don't think the "you" in the scenario is in any danger, really.

I just refuse to see the fight scenario as an inherently negative thing. I'd rather see two men in a fight club to let out their red-ray energy than two men hunting for sport, for instance.

There are a lot of references to people being trained in fighting arts here, in this thread. I don't see how mock fighting is much different than real fighting, save for a few bruises. People get pleasure from using their bodies in a tactile way, especially in competition.

Is it fear based to lock your house up before you go out?  I don't know if it is completely wise to ignore fear all together and not let it influence your actions at all.  Walking through a park late at night, to prove you are not afraid, is not a very good idea if you ask me.  I have never been in a fight myself, but I don't think they are exactly as 'innocent' as they are being made to be.  From my understanding, there is the very real possibility of serious injury occurring and perhaps even death.  Offering that kind of catalyst to someone looking to fight seems counter intuitive, as they will then have to balance that and live with the consequences of such an action.  I think it would be better to find another outlet, but that is probably easier said than done.

That's a good question, Billy. But this also begs the question, what are you afraid of? When it comes to locking your house, the fear is of losing some of your property. When it comes to walking late I night, I want to know, what is everyone -literally- afraid of? I mean, who do you imagine is going to jump out in the night? And what are they going to do? Again, steal your property? I just think this thread highlights how much we allow fear-based doctrines to seep into our psyche. It is NOT innately dangerous to walk at night. The possibility/probability chance of a random violent act occurring to anyone is statistically very small, unless you live in an area with extreme urban blight. That is my main point. To change your course of action (ie, avoiding dark alleys at night) because of a one in a million chance, probably literally, that you will be the one who gets assaulted that night, is fear based, IMO.

To be afraid of death is a whole nother thing. Do you fear death? I try not to. I try to tell myself, in situations where I feel fear, that, if it's the end of my story to get shot in this dark alley by a random nutcase, that that is just the end of my story in this incarnation and it was probably decided long ago, long before I decided to make the fearful steps into the alley. Same with loss of property. I don't consider all these acts "random". Most of us here are past the point of random catalyst. It's all meant to teach us acceptance and love of loss. If you're afraid of losing, and you vibrationally resonate with that fear, then it is more likely that you will experience that loss, even if it's just vicariously through feeling the constant fear. But, it is better to resonate with gratitude and abundance - that way, even if someone steals your wallet, the universe can balance itself out by offering you recompense in another way.