09-13-2010, 07:57 AM
Welcome! Congrats on searching the world wide web and finding this resource of crazy people with various ideas of this insanity we call life! It's like winning the lotto really. The hardest part is reading past the letters and words to figure out the winning numbers. Anyway I've got a lot of experience with social anxiety and have recently realized the nervous tension I feel with in is a reflection of the feelings of all the people around me. The more people the worse the problem but I dealt with it using drugs and alcohol. You as a mom and wife may not have that avenue of learning. Your son drains you because that's what he's suppose to do....it all goes back to breast feeding. Anyway since you are obviously sensitive you'll be quick to understand all this because the people hear are full of all kinds of good advices! My advice is continue to allow your son to drain you because it's fueling him. Your job as a mom is to find out what it is that fuels him best and learn a way to encourage him. But since your husband is STO chances are he already has it all figured out. It comes down to adaptability. You're feeling the pressure now cause you need to adapt to all the new things coming at you. As MOM you have the best weapon to learn adaptation and that's communication. You already say you like the 1 on 1. You need to evolve that 1 on 1 time with new challenges. Where women go men will follow. It's that stupid easy......the hard part is that first small step. The moon landing quoted it perfectly.