simplifying STO and STS

[upensmoke]

I agree to a big extent, which is why step number one is often learning to love the self - if you hate yourself, then treating others the way you want to be treated isn't foolproof. Treating others how I want to be treated was my mantra as a child. As I've grown up I've shifted more to "treating others how THEY want to be treated" because it allows for more subtlety.

One way I simplify STO and STS is acceptance vs. control. Is the action/emotion because I want to control the situation, or because I want to accept and love it? It can also be simplified to radiation vs. absorption - is this thought/action trying to add something to the greater whole, or take away from it?

I use to simplify it by acceptance vs control but for me that has lead to confusion. But i never thought of the idea of adding more to the situation rather than taking from the situation. that's a good one. As for treating people on how they want to be treated I feel the leaves to much room for me to be taken advantage of. I treat my girlfriend like that and it can be exhausting sometimes. 

I have a hard time at seeing polarity in any other way than making the exploration of love and duality of self being among other-selves (which also are self) more complete.

Perhaps an STS entity to adhere to the STO polarity would simply be infringing upon itself. It would deny his right to have his own desires as the Creator, as such his actions would radiate harmony but this harmony would not be found within itself. In short it wouldn't allow itself to be what it is and as such reject the portion of the OIC it incarnates.

Maybe STS entities do treat others in the way they want to be treated, or have been treated. Plunging the world into darkness is a way to plunge themselves into darkness afterall, to hurt other-self is a way to hurt self, etc.

Don't you feel like if the bold part were true, that would mean that STS entities want others to infringe on their will?