"good works for the wrong reasons"

[Karl]

I kinda feel like that. I tried to give up lots of things in order to be more positive but only found a lack of self worth. Its better to accept and find a balance with your desires than to overcome them.

I found that with a lot of my addictions, trying to crush them only had a rebounding effect that made them grow stronger and stronger. It wasn't until I began focusing on them less objectively and experienced them for what they were at that moment without my old perceptions that I stopped abusing the experiences as often.

So basically I agree with you and have experienced that myself also.