09-20-2015, 10:58 PM
catalyst really is such a nebulous thing.
I guess the issue is that unless it is recognised as catalyst, then it can't really serve the function of catalyst.
The exact same situation may represent catalyst for one individual, and not for another individual. That may be because the second person has balanced that area, and so is not moved by it, or because they are so overloaded with other data, it doesn't even register in awareness.
I can't really speak to your specific situation. But I do believe that our family members represent the most inescapable levels of catalyst that we agreed to expose ourselves to. For that exact same reason; one cannot deny that you are not in relation to one's parents, or to one's siblings. So it's there in your face, for the captive period in childhood, and then voluntary association in adulthood. Although, in your case, it might not seem so voluntary at all
My parents used to put a bunch of expectations on me. That only really changed when the grandkids came along, and they shifted their hopes and attentions to the 'next generation'. So that relationship between me and them changed because they let go of something, and allowed something else to be. I'm sure, on my side, there was also some acceptance work of them as well, but from my perspective, the connection shifted when they had a major refocussing of attention.
I guess the issue is that unless it is recognised as catalyst, then it can't really serve the function of catalyst.
The exact same situation may represent catalyst for one individual, and not for another individual. That may be because the second person has balanced that area, and so is not moved by it, or because they are so overloaded with other data, it doesn't even register in awareness.
(09-20-2015, 04:28 PM)IndigoGeminiWolf Wrote: I deal with a difficult, commanding person. But I love her. When she wants to argue, I stay silent.
I don't try to defend myself most of the time. I don't see a reason to complain or fight.
I can't really speak to your specific situation. But I do believe that our family members represent the most inescapable levels of catalyst that we agreed to expose ourselves to. For that exact same reason; one cannot deny that you are not in relation to one's parents, or to one's siblings. So it's there in your face, for the captive period in childhood, and then voluntary association in adulthood. Although, in your case, it might not seem so voluntary at all
My parents used to put a bunch of expectations on me. That only really changed when the grandkids came along, and they shifted their hopes and attentions to the 'next generation'. So that relationship between me and them changed because they let go of something, and allowed something else to be. I'm sure, on my side, there was also some acceptance work of them as well, but from my perspective, the connection shifted when they had a major refocussing of attention.