What truely makes someone STS

[Monica]

I'm beginning to think of polarity as a stumbling block.

Making choices for the express purpose of polarizing would indeed be a stumbling block and counterproductive.

When I'm experiencing oneness and bliss while meditating, the last thing I'm thinking about is polarity.

I'd say that's a good thing!

Or perhaps I'm polarizing and am not even aware of it. Who knows. I'm open to any possibility.

Just thinking about polarity is benign, just like thinking about any other concept. Understanding the concept doesn't cause polarizing.

But, if one is making a choice just to polarize, then they won't polarize, or might even polarize in the opposite direction than intended.

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