How we make 'others' feel

[Namaste]

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
               ― Maya Angelou

So we have an idea that we are being loving ... but how does that match up to how others actually experience you?

we can take paragons like Carla, and she just did her business, and yet, as her farewell thread shows - she made people feel a certain way with how she lived her life and what she did with it.

Look at Mother Teresa - she gave relentlessly and yet in her personal diary she often wrote how she wasn't giving enough, and felt like she lacked in service to others.

Service to others is EXACTLY that, the affect you have on others, not one's own (highly distorted) idea of it.